Just imagine if we could all carry ourselves in a confident manner like Hank Moody from Californication.
How much easier would it be to attract girls effortlessly?
Unfortunately, not all of us are born with such smoothness and wit to charm ladies at will.
So what are the alternatives if you are not naturally gifted with attractive qualities?
Well, there really is only one answer actually.
You fvcking “learn” how to carry yourself like a confident man.
We don’t just sit here and let our lack of natural talent decide our fate.
You should relentlessly strive toward being the most confident and the baddest version of yourself.
With that being said, where the hell does confidence come from anyway?
Is it something you can magically summon at will?
Or is it something that you develop over time?
Or does being confident even matter for getting girls?
I’ll talk about the “truth” I discovered about confidence from going out for countless hours and days.
As much as I like to say every girl only likes confident guys, that isn’t exactly how it works in real life.
Here’s a simple truth.
As long as you can “fake” confidence to a certain degree, you should have no problem hooking up with girls.
A girl doesn’t possess these wizardly power she can use to easily identify if the guy is being fake or not until she spends enough time with you (assuming you’re decently good enough at faking your confidence).
Especially if we are talking about hooking up just for one night.
Sure. She will realize you’re a piece of shit over time (if you’re PoS that is..) but not within 5 minutes of meeting you.
So if your goal is to just hook up with girls then you can easily accomplish that – by faking confidence although your inside may be filled with insecurities and doubts.
So what exactly is the best way to trick yourself into “borrowing” that temporary confidence from your brain?
Here’s your answer..
Do something that will instantly snap you out of your head.
It can be making some weird motion or yelling out some obnoxious shit in public.
Or maybe saying something that’s completely random to the girl you’re talking to.
Basically, do or say something you normally wouldn’t (because it’s too crazy)… and it will get you right out of your head like no other.
You can then borrow that temporary high you feel in your body to hit on girls with your newfound confidence.
But let’s be real. Who wants to settle for that anyway?
I doubt you actually want to solely rely on a temporary trickery to put on a confident mask – and go back to being a sad little loser for the remainder of the day.
Developing “real” confidence obviously takes time as with anything else that is worthwhile to accomplish.
Think about the times when you felt most confident and happy with your life.
Isn’t it when you set a goal and you were making a progress toward that goal?
As Tony Robbins says, “Progress equals happiness”.
So how then do you make consistent progress toward whatever goal you set out to achieve – so you can attain happiness and gain massive confidence in the process?
It really is not rocket science.
This is done simply by showing up and keeping promises that you make to yourself.
Say you decide you are going to lose fifteen pounds within the next three months – So you come up with a plan to train five times a week while reducing calories from your diet.
All you need to do is to make sure you show up each and every one of your training days while eating healthy.
It does not matter if you do not “feel” like training on some days.
If you want to win, you do whatever it takes to reach your goal, and not let your “feelings” dictate your action.
It surely won’t always be smooth sailing especially when you are in that starting phase of changing your habit – that’s been ingrained into your system for so long.
But when you manage to come out on the other side, you will have transformed your “identity” that will serve you for the rest of your life.
I do want to clarify one more thing.
Just because you haven’t reached your final goal yet – does not mean you don’t have the right to feel confident about the current version of yourself.
As long as you are giving 110% each and every day toward your goal, that in itself is enough reason for you to feel great about yourself.
It’s ultimately the journey and the process that shape who you become.
Although “real” confidence is not a deciding factor when it comes to hooking up with girls for a short term, I can tell you this one thing.
It most certainly is a crucial determinant for attaining that long term fulfillment.
You may be thinking you could care less about this long term fulfillment BS – But I’ve seen too many guys in this community (pick up and dating) obsess over chasing one chick after another – without pursuing anything meaningful in their life – and wound up falling into a deep depression in the process.
While it can be difficult to distinguish between the “real” confidence and a “temporary” manufactured confidence, it becomes quite evident in the long run.
When a girl can sense that you are the real man after spending some time with you, she’ll start chasing you more because she realizes you are unlike every other guy she’s met in the past.
If you have trouble keeping girls, this is most likely the reason why. Because you feel like you really have nothing to show for yourself and your confidence fluctuates like a girl’s mood on her period.
It’s not hard to give off the appearance of a cool guy the first time she hangs out with you – using standard pick up tactics.
But what exactly are you going to do the second, and the third, and the fourth time you meet her?
Are you going to continue using your push-pull lines and tease her with your pre-rehearsed lines?
She will soon realize you have no substance and lose whatever initial attraction she had for you.
I’m sure you don’t want that.
Anyway, that’s it for today.
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