Let me first start out by saying I absolutely hate the term ‘alpha male’.
But it is the term that most people in the community (dating & pick-up) are accustomed to, so we will stick with this term for this article.
And let me also note one more thing before moving any further.
I’m in no way claiming to be an ‘alpha’ male.
Nor do I consider any of the so-called pick-up or dating coaches (and I mean 100% of them) to be alpha in any shape or form.
My opinion is based on studying and observing those who have actually been through some brutal shit in life and overcame that – despite every odds stacked against them.
With that out of the way, let’s dive right into talking about some qualities of an alpha male.
An alpha male never ever seek others validation or do something for the sake of impressing others
This is pretty self-explanatory.
Most people who have achieved anything great in life usually had a ton of doubters.
But what defined their success was their willingness to shut out all the negative voices – and stay on their own path until they reached their destination.
When Arnold Schwarzenegger decided he would become a lead actor in Hollywood – no director believed he would make it.
They told him he’s too big and he looks like a freak.
They told him there’s no lead actor in Hollywood with a thick Austrian accent like him.
Guess what Arnold did?
He decided he’s going to be the example… if there’s no other example to look up to.
He never ever let other’s limiting belief stop him from achieving his potential.
Most people would’ve resorted into justifying that they have no shot at making it in that same situation – since nobody has ever done it before them.
But that is exactly what separates an alpha male from the rest of the pack.
An alpha male does not give a flying fvck if another person has done it before him.
Because he knows deep down all that matters is his unwavering belief in himself.
An alpha male is not afraid of offending another person
While an alpha male would not go out of his way to put others down… if the other person says or does something extremely stupid… an alpha male does not hesitate to voice his opinion.
I remember watching a video by one of the CEOs that worked with Steve Jobs.
When an interviewer asked her what were some of the advice given by Steve Jobs during their private talk.
This was her reply.
He (Steve Jobs) told her to not be afraid to “throw a tantrum” if her employees are not performing up to her standard.
His reason was that her employees have to know how serious and committed she is about the vision of the company.
And that they understand she’d be more than happy to fire them if they don’t step up their game.
A lot of people think an alpha male is supposed to keep his “cool” at all times and never ever lose his shit.
But that could not be further from the truth.
What would Genghis Khan have done if some goober tried to fvck one of his million wives?
He would’ve gladly pulled out his sword and chopped the dude into pieces.
There are not too many reasons for an alpha male to hold back when someone rubs him the wrong way – because he is the one in charge.
An alpha male keeps his words
An alpha male doesn’t take words that come out of his mouth lightly.
If he tells another person he’s going to do something, he does it.
His words carry weight.
A lot of people freely say things although they don’t even fvcking mean anything they say.
For example, you might promise to your friend you will hit the gym with him on Tuesday – but when the Tuesday comes, you text your friend your body is too sore to do anything and you bail out.
Sooner or later, your words lose meaning and nobody takes your words seriously.
An alpha male does not act alpha for the sake of appearing as an alpha
A lot of guys try to walk a certain way or act a certain way because they are trying to “look” alpha to others.
Those are just byproducts for most “true” alpha males.
An alpha male walks with purpose because he’s on a mission.
An alpha male talks with certainty because he has an unbreakable belief in himself.
An alpha male is not afraid to speak up because he believes in telling the truth.
On the other hand, a lot of wannabe alphas try to copy these behaviors in an attempt to “fake it til you make it”.
To be fair, there really is nothing wrong with “faking it til making it” as I’ve done it myself.
But I just don’t consider it to be something a true alpha male would spend his time on.
An alpha male takes care of people around him
An alpha male realizes he needs everyone around him to be a hundred percent on board with his mission.
So he ensures his vision is communicated clearly to his team.
He also makes sure everyone is treated fairly – because he understands he cannot get to the final destination by himself.
An alpha male is not afraid to cut people out of his life
His vision comes first before anything else.
He is not afraid to cut toxic people out of his life for this reason.
It does not matter if it’s his wife or his family member.
Anyone that stands in his way of getting to his vision – will be ruthlessly removed from his life.
Anyway, that’s it for today.
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