Feel like you are too old to be attracting younger women?
You are not alone.
It is not uncommon for men to settle for women around their age because they think it’s creepy to be hitting on younger women or they believe younger women just won’t find them attractive.
And you can thank your social conditioning for successfully instilling these limiting beliefs into your brain.
But life is too short for you to be living in fear of what others think and not go after what you want.
While I don’t consider myself to be old, my dating life has only gotten exponentially better as I transitioned from my 20s into my 30s.
I have also primarily gone out (aka competed against) with guys who are close to ten years younger than I am.
So I want to help you understand how age can play a factor not only in regards to having a relationship with women but also for short term flings.
The truth is, most women do not care about your age as much as you think they do.
Historically, it has been considered normal for women to be with a guy who is older (and usually a LOT older) than them.
Generally speaking, being older means you have more wisdom, financial and emotional stability, the ability to effectively communicate, and a clearer sense of your identity.
All of these easily overpower whatever negative traits that follow older age such as decreased physical health and a decreased sign of youthfulness (At least until you reach a point where you are too old to barely move).
You need to realize being an attractive man who takes care of himself is way more important than your actual age for attracting women.
Even for most guys, we would happily go for older women who are beautiful as opposed to younger girls who are average looking and don’t take care of themselves.
Now you can multiply that by a factor of ten for younger women who are interacting with older men.
On top of that, there is also an added psychological stimulation for a lot of younger women interacting with older men (due to older age being associated with more power and status for men).
All in all, not all hope is lost if you are an older dude. Far from it.
But there are a couple of key mistakes that older guys tend to make when interacting with younger women.
And without fixing these, you are not going to be able to really get a chance to let your positive attributes shine through.
Let’s now talk about those if you are ready to mold yourself into a cool, attractive older man as opposed to a weird, creepy old guy.
This is easily one of the most common mistakes that older men tend to make and also one of the most critical mistakes.
As you get older, life tends to take away from your playfulness and your brain tends to default into “problem-solving” mode rather than “fugg around” mode.
It is easy for you to fall into that trap of thinking being playful is childish and it is only reserved for young immature boys.
But you need to realize that is exactly what is turning off a lot of younger women you interact with.
Without that playfulness, you are likely to be instantly labeled as that “old and boring” guy who takes everything way too seriously.
Younger women are not looking for another dad who is going to lecture on how she should live her life (although she may very well call you daddy soon enough if you play your cards right…).
But, rather, she’s looking for an intelligent and dependable man who seems to have his life figured out and doesn’t take anything too seriously.
If you are an older dude who thinks being playful is immature and reserved only for losers, go look up Grant Cardone on the internet and watch some of his interviews.
He is an extremely successful businessman in his 60s and half of his conversation is filled with shooting the shit. Having been one of the top salesmen (which requires a high degree of interpersonal skill), he intuitively understands the best way to initially connect with people is not by being all uptight and serious but, rather, loose and fun.
And keeping such playful mindset is probably one reason why he looks like he’s in his 40s although he is in his 60s.
So stop being so serious. Stop being so logical.
Be able to tease the girl about how she talks like women of your age. Be able to joke about how she could’ve been your daughter if you met her mother before her dad did.
If you are so used to being serious, it will feel extremely awkward at first and you will probably feel you are being fake.
But stick with it and give it some time.
I promise you will start to get addicted to that feeling of talking with no filter and lightness.
We all want more fun. We all want to be more carefree. Life is too short to be living with a 100% serious mode.
And when you do, you will ascend yourself into being a sexy and cool-ass old man, who makes younger dudes around you wish they were more like you.
While having a few wrinkles on your face can work to your advantage, dressing like a 60-year-old grandpa certainly won’t.
You first want to make sure you are at least in okay shape (at least without a pot belly) before you think about your fashion.
If you have a belly of an 8-month pregnant woman with arms of a 12-year-old girl, that is not exactly a favorable combination for attracting younger women.
No amount of good fashion will triumph over a terrible body shape, so you simply have to make sure your body is at least “acceptable” (But even if you do fit that aforementioned type, there will still be women who will still accept you for who you are if you talk to enough women and are willing to play a little more number’s game).
Once that is taken care of, you need to make sure you wear clothes that actually fit.
What is the point of being in a good shape (apart from your health obviously) if you are not going to proudly showcase it to the world?
Getting into a decent shape and wearing clothes that fit will make you stand out above 90% of guys (especially compared to other men of your age). Once that is done, it is just a matter of experimenting with different clothes and finding your own style.
You may feel like there is nothing you have in common with guys who are a decade younger than you are.
You may think those young guys are too immature and you have nothing to gain by hanging out with those who are less experienced (in life) than you.
But there is a very good reason why you would want to spend more time with the younger crowd.
The reason being their playfulness and enthusiasm will rub off on you.
When you adopt that playfulness and enthusiasm on top of your groundedness, that usually comes with older age, you will effortlessly attract a lot of younger women.
Be open-minded and realize there is something you can learn from people of all ages and experiences.
Most of us are repelled by something that is different or unfamiliar to us.
If you want to learn how to connect with women quickly especially as someone who starts at an older age, it is imperative you keep an open mind.
Otherwise, you are most likely just going to end up being a bitter old man who is angry at women for not being the way you want them to be.
So go out and approach and take each rejection as a learning lesson to get better!
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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