What are the best ways to ask a girl out over text, and is it even a good idea to ask a girl out over text messages?
You will soon discover the unfiltered answers to these questions in this article.
Is it a good idea to ask a girl out over text?
I would normally say it is NOT a good idea to ask a girl out over text.
There are certainly better ways to ask her out (which we will soon discuss in the next section).
But, it is definitely possible to successfully ask a girl out over text.
Here are some of the drawbacks of asking a girl out over text.
First, you are limited by how effectively you can communicate with written words alone.
You are also likely to waste unnecessary time asking a girl out over text.
More importantly, it is hard to arouse a girl’s emotion over text messages.
You may ask why it is important to arouse a girl’s emotion when you ask her out over text.
This is because our actions are governed by our emotions.
Our emotions need to be aroused for us to be inspired to take any action.
And as you may already be aware, it is a lot easier to influence someone’s emotion when we can use our facial expression, vocal tonality, and body language.
That being said, there are certain times when it may be impossible for you to get ahold of a girl apart from texting her.
So, let’s go into detail about how best to ask a girl out over text.
Avoid a drawn out conversation over text
Don’t try to have a long conversation over text messages.
I want you to maintain a little bit of mystery.
Many men make a mistake of having way too much chit chat over texts.
This makes a girl feel like she’s got you all figured out, and there is a good chance
she will lose some level of interest in you as a result.
While it is impossible to keep mysteriousness forever in a relationship, it is an important part of the initial attraction.
You should primarily use text messaging as a way to set up and confirm a date.
Ideally, you want to set up a date when you are talking to a girl in person, so all you need to do is to confirm a date over text.
There is a chance you will end up playing a lot of unnecessary games (such as intentionally delaying texts and faking disinterest) when you try to make everything happen over texts.
It is a lot harder for either you or the
girl to play such games in person.
So, keep your text conversations short and get to the point.
Do not be needy over text
Do not show any signs of neediness over text.
a girl feels you are too needy is when she will lose any attraction for you.
Here are some things you definitely want to avoid if you want to successfully ask a girl out over text.
1. Do not text her more than two times in a row.
This will come off as desperate, and she will perceive you as a low-value male.
It is not exactly the worst thing to send a girl a second text message if she ignores you.
I do believe in men going after what they want, and persistence is a good trait to have in a lot of situations.
But, two times is enough.
Once you persist any further than that, your persistence will be interpreted as neediness.
Not only is this ineffective for
winning a girl over, but it will also kill your confidence.
When you consistently go after someone who does not value you, it will only diminish your sense of self-worth.
So, avoid making a mistake of texting a girl over and over again when she does not reciprocate.
2. Do not write an essay when texting a girl
Avoid writing a long essay when you message a girl.
Think about what it communicates to a girl.
It communicates you are really into her.
The very fact you spent that much time and effort into writing a long message indirectly signals to a girl that you don’t have a lot of other options in your life.
And girls do not want to be with a man who is not desired by other women.
So, keep your texts brief.
A good rule of thumb is to match the level of investment that a girl shows over text.
If she is only sending you a short text message, then you generally want to keep your text messages short as well.
If she sends a long text message, then you may reciprocate by sending her a long text message every now and then.
3. Send texts that are appropriate to your current relationship with a girl
Here is what I mean by that.
If you’ve only known her for a few days, you do not want to be sending a text message that you would only be sending to a girl you are in a relationship with.
For example, you do not want to bombard a girl with good morning and good night texts every day when you’ve only known the girl for a few days.
It is only going to put an unnecessary pressure on her, and she is likely not going to want to see you as a result.
The level of effort you put into your text message has to somewhat match the depth of a relationship you have with the girl.
Otherwise, she is going to become repelled by your enthusiasm.
Cute ways to ask a girl out over text
There is no one-size-fits-all approach to asking a girl out over text.
But, anything that is relevant to a girl is a good bet.
For example, if a girl is into working out, you can ask her if she wants to have a romantic squat session with a glass of protein shake afterward.
If she is into animals, you can suggest going to a nearby animal shelter together as long as she promises to not ignore you the entire time because she’s so busy playing with animals.
So, make it relevant to a girl and keep things light by
making a playful remark. What are the alternatives?
Are there better ways to ask a girl out rather than doing it over text messages?
You bet there are.
The first alternative I recommend is to pick up your phone and call her.
As we have talked about earlier, it is a lot easier to influence someone when you can use your voice as opposed to using written words alone.
You are able to convey your energy and emotion a lot more effectively when you can use your voice to influence a girl.
But, the most effective way to ask a girl out is to do it in person.
You simply have a lot more tools at your disposal to influence a girl’s decision when you ask her out in person.
You are able to use your facial expression, body language, vocal tonality and words.
This means if you know how to use those tools to your advantage, your chance of successfully asking a girl out will significantly increase.
That being said, if you are really
awkward in person, asking a girl out in person may actually hamper your chance of getting her out.
If that applies to you, you need to put your time and effort into becoming an
I hope this article gave you a bit more clarity on the best way to ask a girl out!