I still remember the first time I asked a girl for her number.
I was so nervous that my hands started shaking uncontrollably as I barely managed enter her number into my phone.
Thankfully, those are long-gone memories, and I’ve learned a thing or two about getting a girl’s number (and a little more) in the past few years of going out and talking to girls.
In this article, you will learn exactly how to ask a girl for her number that will guarantee your success.
Make sure you don’t miss the last section about what you can do when a girl rejects you!
Without further ado, let’s get started.
I want to start off with the topic of asking a girl’s number online because there is a good chance you have her on your social media account, but you do not have her number yet.
This is likely the case if you know her from your social circle, such as school or work.
What I’m about to tell you applies to any scenarios where you would be asking a girl’s number.
You first want to make sure there is a reason for asking a girl for her number.
This makes everything feel a lot more natural for both you and the girl.
So, what should this reason be?
As a general rule of thumb, you first want to ask her on a date before you go for her number.
I prefer to ask a girl out in person, but it is not a big deal if you message her on social media as long as she already knows you well enough.
When you set up a plan to do something, it is only natural for her to give you her number.
And there is no possibility of awkwardness that often arises from asking a girl’s number without providing any reason.
You are also reducing a potential headache by letting your intention known before you get a girl’s number.
You no longer need to waste your time beating around the bush over text messages before you finally ask her out.
You have already done that by setting up a date (or whatever you are inviting her out to) prior to getting her number.
So, what is the best way to ask a girl for her number on tinder?
The basic principle applies here as it applies to all of the other circumstances where you are asking for a girl’s number.
You first need to ensure that the girl is at least responding to your messages.
It would not make sense to suddenly ask for her number when she is barely responding to your messages.
You want to have that nice back and forth exchanges going before you even bother asking a girl for her number.
One thing I want you to keep in mind is to ask her number (or any request you make for that matter) when she is at her emotional peak.
When she clearly seems to enjoy a conversation with you, and she promptly replies to your text message, that is when you want to ask her number.
Think about when you are most likely to say yes to another person when he or she invites you out.
You are much more likely to say yes when you are having a great conversation with that person and you (or that person), for whatever reason, have to leave in the middle of a conversation.
You feel the desire to meet up with that person again to continue your conversation because you were having a great time.
The same principle applies when you are asking for a girl’s number.
You want to go for her number when she is clearly enjoying the conversation.
You can then politely excuse yourself by telling her that you have to go, but you would love to continue the conversation in person.
Asking her number on tinder is also a great filtering process to find out if the girl is just replying because she’s bored, or if she is actually down to meet you in real life.
Messaging a girl on Instagram is no different than messaging a girl on Tinder.
I do, however, want to point out that you can better show who you really are on your Instagram as opposed to Tinder.
So, it pays to put some effort in making sure that you at least look presentable on your Instagram account.
These are some of the checklists you want to go through to make sure your Instagram is at least good enough to not ruin your chances of getting a girl’s number.
1. Make sure you have enough followers on your Instagram.
You don’t need to buy millions of fake followers to impress girls, but you also don’t want to have seven followers on your Instagram.
That will instantly lower your status in a girl’s eyes, and it will negatively affect your chances of getting a girl’s number.
If you are a legitimate social media influencer, then that will undoubtedly help you elevate your status in other’s eyes, but it is not a realistic option for most men.
It is enough to have a few hundreds of followers which serve as a proof that you are socially relevant, and connected to others.
2. Post pictures that show you have a cool group of friends in real life.
You want to show in your pictures that you are a cool dude with a good group of friends.
There is no need to get all fancy with your pictures by only posting the ones where you pose like a model.
You want your Instagram to serve as an opportunity for a girl to get to know you.
So, I recommend you post pictures that best represent who you are.
Once again, when it comes to messaging a girl on Instagram to ask her number, it is no different than how you would go about it on Tinder.
I want to emphasize that a good interaction should come first before you even bother going for her number.
If you are inexperienced with women, and you have a great deal of fear of asking a girl’s number, then it can be useful to make it a rule to ask for number every time you interact with a girl.
But, that is something you want to drop as soon as you get over your fear.
Asking a girl for her number comes natural when you’ve already had solid interaction with her.
The mistake a lot of men make is that they try to get a girl’s number when the girl barely knows them.
It really shouldn’t be a surprise why she may be reluctant to give out her number in such a scenario.
Before I followed this advice, I used to get a lot of numbers that wouldn’t respond, and most of my time was spent on trying to figure out how to get a ‘not interested’ girl to respond.
But, when I changed my focus to having a quality interaction with girls, everything fell into place, and I no longer struggled to get a girl to give me her number or respond to my text messages.
Humor is a great way make a girl feel good around you.
If a girl is feeling positive, she is more likely to give you her number.
What then is the best way to make her laugh, so she is more than happy to give you her number?
Let me give you a list of some funny lines that will get your creative juices flowing.
But, I recommend you come up with your own as that will come off as more authentic when you are interacting with a girl.
1. “Can I get your email, so I can contact you?”
This obviously sounds ridiculous because no sane guy ever asks for a girl’s email to contact her.
It will catch her off guard, and she will most likely laugh.
You can then seamlessly transition into getting her number.
2. “Hey, I’ve been looking for something for the past few hours. Can you help me find it?”
When a girl asks what you are looking for, you tell her…
“I’ve been looking for your number.”
She will laugh because it is so random, and it will be a lot easier for you ask for her number at that point.
It is hard to say no to a person when you are laughing.
I want to point out that what you say does not matter nearly as much as how you say it.
In the above scenarios, it would actually have a greater effect if you say those lines in a casual manner (as if it’s normal for you to ask a girl for her e-mail) rather than exaggerating your tone to make it sound like you are obviously joking.
It is the contrast that will make a girl burst out laughing.
When you ask for her number, she may reject you by giving you a few different reasons, such as…
“I have a boyfriend”
“I don’t give out my numbers to strangers”
“I don’t even know you”
When a girl says she has a boyfriend, a lot of men respond to a girl’s rejection with cute little lines like…
“He can watch”
While saying something is still better than just being lost for words, there are better ways to respond to a girl’s rejection.
The best type of response you can give to a girl who rejects you is to flip the script on her.
Let’s say she tells you she has a boyfriend.
My first advice is to leave her alone and talk to other girls because there is no reason for you to hit on girls with boyfriends.
But, there are rare cases where the girl lies to you that she has a boyfriend as an ‘autopilot response’ because she feels nervous by your approach.
By the way, this is assuming you are talking to a girl who barely knows you. This doesn’t apply when you are talking to a girl you’ve known for a while.
Anyway, how should you respond in such a scenario?
Below is an example of the type of response I’d recommend over using cheesy lines.
You can give her a nice little smirk and tell her it’s quite assumptive of her to think that you already want to date her.
You can then proceed to tell her that there are at least 12 different requirements a girl has to meet before you even think about getting into a committed relationship with her.
You then want to transition into talking about something else without waiting for her response.
If she is standing there and still talking to you after she told you she has a boyfriend, then there is a good chance she is into you (and also a good chance she lied about having a boyfriend).
In such a case, you want to continue to talk to her, so she can get to know you better, and she may be more than happy to hand out her number before you guys part ways.
What you do NOT want to do with a girl that says she has a boyfriend is get into this whole verbal match about why she should give you her number.
That is just a waste of time, and it doesn’t accomplish anything.
With that being said, if you are certain that she has a boyfriend, then I recommend you to move on.
There is simply no reason for you to be hitting on a girl with a boyfriend when there are millions of other girls you can approach.
That just screams desperation and neediness.
I wish you the best of luck!
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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