How To Ask A Girl For Her Number

I vividly remember the first time I asked for a girl’s number who I thought was extremely hot at the time.

I asked her to tell me her number and my hands uncontrollably shook in front of her as I slowly entered her number into my phone.

Just imagine how embarrassed I must have been to turn into a rapid human vibrator in front of her as she secretly laughed (at least in my own imagination at the time..) at my awkwardness..

Luckily, those are long-gone memories now and I’ve learned a thing or two about getting a girl’s number and a little more along the way.

So, if you are looking for a way to ask that girl of your dreams for her number, then this article will most certainly help you with that.

First things first..

How do you ask a girl for her number online..?

This is a good topic to start with because there is a good chance you have her on social media but you do not have her number yet. That is if you know her from your social circle (I’ll also talk about getting numbers from cold approach later so hang in there..)

This general rule I’m about to tell you applies in most cases.

You want to make sure there is a reason for you getting her number. This allows you to prevent any potential resistance from her especially if you haven’t formed a solid connection with the girl yet.

You are only limited by your own creativity when it comes to the reasons you can come up with.

One example I can come up with on the spot is..

“I’m trying to stay away from using FB/IG these days..”

The most ideal scenario, however, is that you set up a plan with her prior to getting her number. This can be done either in person (which is ideal) or on social media.

When you guys plan to do things together, it only makes sense for her to give you her number.

And there is no possibility of awkwardness that can often arise from asking a girl’s number without providing any reason.

There is also an added benefit to doing this in that it reduces a lot of potential headache of going back and forth over text to schedule a date.

If, however, you are still learning to talk to girls and your brain tends to get foggy during interaction, then I’d advise you to just keep it simple.


Be direct and suggest to hang out and ask for her number 

It really is as simple as that.

Like I said earlier, this is not my most preferred way of getting a girl’s number.

Because girls can really be a pain in the ass when you are trying to set up a date with her. It’s always better to do this before getting her number.

But, it’s a great way to simplify everything so you can channel most of your focus on things like eye contact, vocal tonality etc. At the end of the day, It’s the energy she feels from you (and how attracted she is to you as a result..) that has the biggest influence on whether she will want to meet you again

Simply say this..

“Hey, let’s hang out sometime. What’s your number?”

On the other hand, I wouldn’t even suggest going for a girl’s number if you have..

A great social media profile that shows you live a cool life

Girls love to stalk on other people’s Facebook and Instagram. If you add her on social media platform, you can bet she will be checking out your photos.

And this is where you can really play to your strength if you have a cool ass profile on your social media.

She will form her opinions about you based on your pictures and posts.

Like I said earlier, it’s in your best interest to add her on your social media account if you portray yourself to be a cool dude on these platforms.

If, however, you appear like a loser with barely any friends and not too many photos, then it’s best to stay away from it.  

Moving on..


You ask for a girl’s number but she says no.. 

There may be a few different objections such as..

1. I have a boyfriend

2. I don’t give out my numbers to strangers

3. I don’t even know you.

I know guys that like to use cute little lines like…

“Me too..”

“He can watch..”

Etcetra when the girl says she has a boyfriend…

While these homosexual lines certainly are better than you just being flustered without words, there certainly are better responses in my humble opinion.

Generally speaking, the best type of response is to flip the script on her.

Say she tells you she has a boyfriend.

You can put a little smirk on your face and tell her it’s quite assumptive of her to think that you already want her as your girlfriend. Then tell her there are at least 12 different requirements a girl has to meet before you can even think about getting into a committed relationship with a girl.

Then, you want to quickly transition into talking about something else.

And build up her emotion to the point she can’t help but to give her number.

The last thing you want to do is get into this whole verbal match about why she should give you her number as that really serves no purpose.

I need to point out that I personally would not persist if I think the girl is actually genuine about having a boyfriend. But, it is an autopilot response for many girls when they still have a few unanswered questions about you.

So, there definitely is time and place for persistence.

As a final point, I know some of you may be asking…

How to ask a girl for her number on tinder 

Once again, give her a reason why you need her number.

For example, one way you can do this is to tell her you that have this weird ability to accurately guess what the girl studies/studied in college within 10 seconds of listening to a girl’s voice.

You then get her number to talk to her on the phone only because you want to show her this little weird gift of yours.

Then, just come up with some BS excuse when you get it wrong and quickly transition into talking about something else when you are on the phone with her.

Nothing builds rapport and makes you stand out in a girl’s mind like talking to her on the phone. Because it is so rare in this day and age to actually get on the phone with others.

It is also a lot harder for us to reject someone over the phone than doing it over text.

There is one little trick (I hate this word but can’t think of anything else for now..) you can use to reduce the chance of her flaking on you if you manage to set up a date with her over the phone.

When you feel any sense of hesitation in her voice, simply do a little push.

For example…

“Hey, I just want both of us to have a great time. You don’t have to come see if it’s not something you don’t want to do..”

The goal is to get her to verbally commit to seeing you on a promised date.

If she responds to you by saying she can meet up with you after you say that, then her chance of flaking lowers significantly.

This comes from a basic psychological principle which says that people do their best to stay consistent with the initial commitment they made.

You are solidifying her commitment with the question that pushes her away a little.

This increases her commitment to come see you.

Anyway, that’s it for now..

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Till next time..

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.