How To Approach A Woman On The Street

First of all, I want to take my hats off to you for having enough courage to even think about approaching a woman on the street.

This is something that most men would never ever do in their lifetime.

So, the mere fact that you are willing to even approach a woman on the street already puts you in the 1%.

But, if you are going to engage in such a ballsy act, you might as well make sure you do it correctly to maximize your chances.

I can promise you that you would never have to worry about the correct way to approach a woman on the street once you are done with this article.

By the way, you may disagree with the 7th point in this article, but it is also one of the most important principles to keep in mind for someone who is starting out in this journey, so make sure you don’t miss that.

Without further ado, let’s get started.

1. Embrace the awkwardness

I want you to accept that it is going to be awkward.

It is already awkward enough to be talking to someone for the first time, but when you talk to a woman on the street?

You can bet that awkwardness is going to be amplified by a magnitude of 10.

So, how can you make an interaction that is inevitably going to be awkward a little less awkward, so it is bearable enough for a woman to stay there and talk to you?

And the best way is to simply embrace it.

Let me give you a hypothetical scenario so you can better understand what I mean.

Let’s say you reach out your hand to fist bump someone, but he grabs your fist with his palm because he thought you wanted to shake his hand.

If you make an awkward laugh and try to pretend that it didn’t happen, then it would actually make the whole thing a lot more awkward than it needs to be.

But, if you make a joke out of how it was super awkward and laugh it off, you guys will both get a good laugh out of it.

You want to adopt the same mindset when you are approaching a woman on the street.

Your interaction with a woman on the street is inevitably going to be awkward at first.

So, instead of exerting all of your energy on avoiding awkwardness, you need to learn to be comfortable with awkwardness and learn to even play around with that awkward tension.

With such a mindset, you will be eliminating a large portion of fear and resistance that hold you back from approaching a woman on the street.

2. Become a master observer

I want you to practice becoming more observant as you go about your daily life.

The reason why this is important is that you ideally want to initiate a conversation with a woman by observing something unique that stands out about her.

You do not want to be relying on memorized lines to start a conversation with a woman on the street because you will just come off as inauthentic for the most part.

But, it requires practice for you to be able to come up with interesting things to say about a woman on the spot.

So, here is what I want you to do.

When you are walking down the street, I want you to carefully observe others (without being too creepy) and take note of some interesting thing about them that stands out which you can potentially comment on.

You don’t necessarily have to start a conversation with these people,  but I want you to at least think about what you could say if you were to approach them.

This can really be anything, such as a person’s facial expression, the way he or she walks, the outfit he or she is wearing.

And when you approach a woman on the street, you will be doing exactly what you had been practicing except that you will actually be verbalizing your thoughts.

3. Rely on your subcommunication over words

I won’t go into too much detail on this topic because I’ve already hammered on this topic over and over again in my past articles.

Your vocal tonality and your body language matter a lot more than the words you speak.

People don’t remember the words you said, but they remember the energy you emanated when you were talking to them.

The way you talk, the way you move, and the way you look at a person all play a much greater role in how a woman will perceive you than any words you can speak.

I had a friend who would get rejected by one woman after another whenever he would approach on the street.

He would always get fixed on the words he said, but he failed to realize that it was his weak presence (due to poor vocal tonality and body language) that repelled women away from him.

Don’t be like him.

When you are continuously getting bad reactions from the women you approach, I want you to first go over in your head if your eye contact, vocal tonality, and body language were on point.

If those are in check, you can then worry about the words you say to a woman.

When you approach her on the street, make sure you look into her eyes with unwavering eye contact, speak with a tone that is positively dominant, and stand straight up with a sense of ease.

4. Do not hesitate

The more you think, the more your fear is going to build up.

As Barney Stinson from How I Met Your Mother would say, you need to stop thinking and do, do, do!

You are never going to be able to “think” your way out of approach anxiety.

Even worse, when a woman notices you hesitate before you approach her, it is going to ruin your chances.

A man who expresses fear and hesitation before his approach is not an attractive man in most women’s eyes.

On the other hand, if she notices you walking up to her with confidence, she is going to get curious to find out what you are all about.

So, you want to make a commitment to yourself that you are going to shut off your brain and approach a woman you find attractive within 3 seconds of noticing her (also known as a 3-second rule).

When you don’t have such a rule for yourself, your brain is going to effectively come up with all sorts of excuses on why it is a bad idea to talk to a woman on the street.

Most men would not dare to approach a woman they find attractive on the street.

And most men also have a subpar dating life without many options.

So, if you do what every other man is doing, then you are going to end up exactly where they are (aka beating your meat with your right hand in your mom’s basement or settling with a woman you don’t even like that much).

Once you make a commitment that you are going to do whatever it takes to improve your dating life, you are left with no excuse but to approach a woman that captures your eyes.

5. Use time constraints

This is especially important when you are approaching a woman on the street.

Most women you meet on the street are busy, and they have somewhere to go.

When you abruptly stop them in the middle of a street, you are preventing them from getting to where they want to be.

Even if she has a good first impression of you, and she wants to get to know you better, she may not be able to pay attention to what you are saying because she is so worried about getting to her destination on time.

So, it is a good idea to preemptively let her know that you can’t stay long because you have to get somewhere soon, but you would like to talk to her for a couple of minutes to get to know her better.

When you say this, you will take the pressure off her shoulder and make it easier for her to pay attention to what you are saying.

6. Ask her contact information

This is also a common mistake that a lot of men make when they approach a woman.

They don’t ask for a woman’s contact information because of reasons, such as believing that a woman is not into them, she appears too busy to talk, or they were simply too scared of losing the woman’s validation (in case they get rejected).

Based on my personal experience, I’d say the last one is the most common reason why most men don’t ask for a woman’s number.

When you approach a woman on the street, she may be very receptive and even show interest, and that will often catch you off guard.

And you now become afraid of potentially losing that validation she’s given you if you were to ask for her number because she may reject you, and you will feel like it all meant nothing.

You would rather leave the interaction on a high note without going for the close and make yourself believe that you could have easily gotten her number only if you went for it.

While such behavior may be good for your ego, it is absolutely terrible if your goal is to have an abundance of options in your dating life.

You need to realize your ego is the biggest enemy to getting results, and you need to actively fight against it every time it tries to rear its ugly head.

So, always ask for a woman’s number whether you think she is into you or not.

7. Play the number’s game

This may be a little controversial idea to some, but the truth is, a lot of women that give you numbers will not respond to you especially when your skill with women isn’t sufficiently developed yet.

So, if you get a woman’s number and you expect that is some sort of a guarantee that she is going to reply and go on a date with you, you will be faced with a continuous chain of disappointments.

For this reason, it is important you heavily rely on the number’s game when you first start approaching women on the street.

Not only is that going to allow you to maximize your chance of meeting a woman who will happily go on a date with you, but it will also allow you to develop your skill faster as you will be accumulating more experiences in a shorter amount of time.

As a final word, don’t let rejections discourage you from approaching a woman you find attractive on the street.

Every man who is truly good with women had to face countless rejections during the process of learning how to interact with women.

Keep pushing yourself and don’t give up, and you will become a man who can effortlessly attract a woman of your dreams before you realize.

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.