How old is Too Old to be a Virgin?

So, is there anything wrong with being a virgin, and what can you do about it?

Let’s talk about it.

What age is it weird to be a virgin?

This is not a straightforward question to answer.

I can give you a politically correct answer and tell you that it doesn’t matter how old you are, and you will eventually find someone who you connect with.

But the truth of the matter is that there is a certain age range that being a virgin starts to become a little strange in other’s eyes.

I can’t speak for other cultures but if you look at the Western world, people normally start to believe they are too old to be a virgin by the time they are over 20 or so.

I was a virgin for a long time until the age of 26 when I met my first girlfriend, and I still vividly remember feeling terrified to tell any of my friends that I’m still a virgin.

In fact, I would lie and tell people that I’ve been with a couple of girls when people would ask me about my past experiences with girls.

If you hold a very idealistic view, you may say that you should not worry whether others think you are weird because you are a virgin.

While that certainly is the ideal mindset to adopt, it is easier said than done.

You can tell poor people they should be grateful for what they already have, but it is extremely hard not to hold a pessimistic view when they can barely afford to pay rent.

Telling a virgin that he (or she) should not worry about finding a girl really is no different than telling a poor person that he should not worry about his poor living condition.

Side effects of being a virgin for too long

So, what is the issue with being a virgin for too long?

You become weird

I would love to say that most virgins are cool people who are carefree and know how to have fun.

And I’ve certainly met my fair share of virgins who were cool and social.

But, it would be a lie for me to say that most virgins aren’t weird and awkward.

In a lot of cases, there is a reason why someone is a virgin (if they are involuntarily a virgin that is).

It is because some part of their personality is lacking.

And what do you think happens when you don’t fix your weirdness for a prolonged period of time?

It becomes an ingrained habit.

The longer you live with your ingrained habit, the harder it is going to be for you to fix it.

It is a lot easier to change your habits at a younger age.

The sooner you work on fixing your habit, the easier it will be for you to make a meaningful change.

This isn’t to say that all hope is lost if you are a virgin at an old age.

As I mentioned previously, I was a virgin until the age of 26, and I was 28 by the time I broke up with my first girlfriend.

But, I still managed to transform my personality in my late 20s to the point that I was able to attract a lot of beautiful women into my life on a consistent basis.

I just want you to realize you will need to put in more effort when you try to change your personality at an old(er) age.

Girls are repelled by you

The ‘correct thing to say’ would be to tell you to find a girl who is not so close-minded that she will judge you for being a virgin.

In an ideal world, we should not judge for the way someone talks, the way someone dresses, the way someone carries himself.

But, guess what?

We ALL subconsciously judge others no matter how hard we try not to judge with our conscious mind.

So, you can either live in your own little bubble, or stack odds in your favor to increase your chances of attracting girls.

And to be frank, you are not really improving your odds with girls by telling them you are a virgin (if you are a man that is…).

Whether you like it or not, female virgins are deemed as more valuable in our society (there is a reason why some women sell their virginity for millions of dollars) while male virgins are seen as losers.

Out of all of the women I’ve been with (and I’ve been with more than I’d like to admit), a lot of them admitted that they would not have slept with me if I were a virgin when they first met me.

Girls want a man who is desired by other women.

Your virginity communicates to women that you are either not desired by other girls, or you don’t have enough leadership to capitalize on a girl’s interest, both of which are unattractive traits to most women.

While I would not advise you to lie about your virgin status, there is no reason for you to go out of your way to tell a girl you are a virgin.

It will just make her perceive you with a biased view.

If you are determined to be 100% transparent with girls at all times, then let her get to know you first at least.

Give her a chance to get to know you before she forms a judgment about you.

What to do to lose your virginity

So, now that we know some of the possible side effects that can arise from being a virgin, what can you do to lose your virginity?

The first step is to actually talk to women.

But, you need to start slow.

If you are a virgin, you most likely have a lot of anxiety around women, and it is wishful thinking to go from zero to a hundred overnight.

Girls are obviously more receptive when they know you in person, so it is a good idea to get used to talking to girls where they are already familiar with you, such as school or work.

You need to set a small, realistic goal when you first start out.

You can’t be putting too much pressure on yourself to make girls crack up with your amazing jokes from the get-go.

I want you to realize that it is a victory if you can go from barely managing to have a 10-second long conversation with girls to managing a 30-second long conversation.

When you can actually hold a conversation with girls, you need to overcome one more mental hurdle before you have a chance of losing your virginity.

You have to get used to leading girls.

When I was a virgin, I reached a point where I became quite comfortable at talking to girls.

I was able to hold a conversation, and I would even occasionally make girls laugh.

But, it all led to nothing until I developed the ability (and courage) to progress the interaction forward.

Most of my interactions would end with, “it was nice to meet you”, and a friendly smile.

So, it is imperative that you start to ask a girl out on a date.

It is going to be nerve-wracking at first.

But, would you rather be 80 years old and realize you could’ve lived a much fuller life had you decided to step a little out of your comfort zone?

I’m sure you know the answer to that question.

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.