You have probably already heard about all different ways on how to make a girl want you in the past.
So why don’t we talk about how NOT to make a girl want you… aka the type of behaviors that would completely repel girls away.
Because more often than not, what matters more is what you shouldn’t do rather than what you should do.
You may be so caught up with doing more and more and adding more and more to your “bag of tricks” that you forget to reflect on things that are turning others off.
Have you ever listened to a singer who can hit all the right notes but there was just something off about the way she sings that was displeasing to your ears?
It was most likely because all her bad habits were completely masking even some of her positive qualities.
The truth is if you can even be normal around an attractive girl although you may not have an outstanding personality, you are already far ahead of a lot of guys.
It is honestly shocking to see some behaviors that manifest when guys talk to girls they find attractive.
A lot of them start putting on this completely different weird persona that appears painfully fake to girls on the receiving end.
So let’s talk about how NOT to be that guy who repels girls.
Neediness really is a great way to kill any and every attraction a person has towards you.
This is not only limited to a man to woman relationship but also applies to any other forms of relationship.
No one likes needy people.
You know exactly the type of people I am talking about.
One of those people who double and triple text you when you don’t reply within an hour (Sorry if you are one of those people and I offended you… but the truth hurts sometimes).
Or one of those girls who just can’t go more than a few minutes without demanding your full attention.
So why is it so unattractive to be needy?
People who are needy communicate they have no other options apart from you.
If they did have options, it is unlikely they feel such a strong attachment toward you.
It is just in our nature to not appreciate something (or a person) when we know we fully have them.
Do you remember when you were a little kid and you really wanted that toy for Christmas?
You were probably filled with anticipation leading up to the Christmas day and you couldn’t wait to play with your toy.
But when you finally got your toy, how long did your excitement last?
Most likely a few days or a few weeks at most.
It is just so strongly ingrained in us to lose interest in something once we know we “fully” have it.
This does not mean you have to always pretend you are busy or act like you are completely disinterested when you talk to girls.
You can still be a kind person (which is different from being a “nice” guy) but it is imperative you let the girl know you are a man with an option if you don’t want her to walk all over you.
Otherwise. you will almost certainly be taken for granted.
So next time you feel that urge to double text her or ask her to spend every hour with you, think twice.
This is actually not the end all be all truth.
Let me clarify what I mean by that.
Girls want guys who appear to be “slightly” better than their level.
If she is a drug addict and she has very low self-esteem, she is not going to want to be with a highly successful and popular guy.
Why is that?
Because it would make her feel uncomfortable. She realizes deep down she does not deserve someone like him.
Think back to your high school days.
If you were one of the nerdy kids (as I once was…), how did you feel around popular kids?
You probably felt more awkward and uncomfortable around them than your usual self because you were afraid they might judge you.
On the other hand, you probably felt very comfortable and became much more expressive around other nerdy kids.
Most likely because you felt like you are one of them… and you subconsciously felt like they would accept you for who you are without judgment.
So yes… it is very possible for you to be too awesome and too cool for the girls you interact with.
With that being said, let me simplify the concept of “being on your purpose” for ya.
To simply put, you must have something in your life that is more important than her.
She can never ever be your priority or become your entire world.
That is the moment when she will lose all respect and interest in you.
Girls will tell you all the time that they want a guy who will love them wholeheartedly and always put them first before anything else.
And guess what?
They do mean it when they tell you that.
They are not “consciously” thinking, “I am going to turn this guy into my little bitch and then dump his ass”.
When they do successfully turn you into their little bitch, however, they won’t be able to help but lose attraction they had toward you.
But anyway, what do I mean when I say you must be on your purpose?
Does your “purpose” have to be some sort of grand vision like coming up with a cure for cancer or eliminating world hunger?
Well, not necessarily.
Because let’s admit it… there are plenty of losers who have no problem attracting relatively pretty girls.
It is almost comical to think you have to be some sort of superhuman to attract chicks.
That is far from reality and you would have a tough time arguing against that unless you are an incel who never steps out of his house.
So when I say she can’t be your priority, your priority can be something that is as simple as having an awesome hobby that you are very passionate about.
Or something as simple as you clearly communicating to her that you need social lives outside of just spending time with her.
You basically cannot afford to have your entire life revolve around her.
No matter how much you think you love her, do not ever give up your passion and your hobbies to spend extra time with her.
Not only will this kill her attraction toward you, but you will also be left completely miserable when she finally ditches your lame ass (if you turned into a beta male as she wanted you to become that is…).
I really wish I didn’t have to write this here because it’s such a common sense.
It’s like telling a student he needs to study to do well in school or telling an athlete he needs to hit the gym to improve his athletic performance.
But this had to be mentioned here because I’ve seen more than a handful of people who completely lack basic hygiene.
I can go into much more detail on this topic but I’ll mention the two that are most important yet most commonly lacking in guys I come across.
That is… your body odor and your breath.
This really applies to everyone from all different cultural background but I noticed it tends to be more prevalent in people from non-westernized culture.
If you have a tendency to sweat a lot, then please be sure to wear your deodorant.
Your smelly armpit is going to disgust everyone around you and you will be standing alone wondering why no girl wants to have a conversation with you for longer than twenty seconds.
It is also one of those things that are difficult to tell others because of its sensitive nature.
So please make everyone’s life easier around you by wearing your deodorant.
I really don’t want to be thinking about how to tell my friend that he smells like rotten milk when I could be spending that time talking to a girl.
And we can’t forget about your breath…
I’ve come across way too many people who are completely unaware of their bad breath.
What makes this worse is that almost no one will directly tell you that you have bad breath.
So unless you pick up on it from the hints others are giving you, it’s likely you are going to go a long time without realizing it.
Some common signs you may have bad breath include…
1. People turning their face away from you when you talk while standing close to them.
2. People keeping their lips and face tight as you talk (signs of them holding their breath so they don’t inhale your heavenly breath).
Brush and floss your teeth every day and chew gum when you are out talking to people.
This should resolve the problem for 99% of bad breathers out there.
Your hygiene is one of those things that won’t really make a difference in whether a girl likes you or not when it’s dialed in.
But it will almost surely ruin your chance with most girls if you have a poor one.
So be sure to take good care of it!
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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