In this article, I want to talk about nofap and whether it has any benefit when it comes to attracting girls (since this site is all about dating advice for men…)
To be frank, I am not sure if there is any study that “definitively” concludes if it is indeed beneficial for your health or not.
A few studies that I’ve examined do seem to show its positive effect on reducing brain fogginess, reducing sexual dysfunction, and increasing confidence due to testosterone level.
And you can access all those information by doing a simple google search so that is not what the focus of this article is going to be.
I’m simply going to talk about my personal experience and some of the personal benefits I have noticed from going on nofap.
So, let’s get right into it…
I’m sure this most likely apply to you as well if you grew up with the internet but I used to struggle massively with porn addiction.
It got to the point where I’d be just sitting in front of my computer for four to five hours and masturbate multiple times a day.
Looking back, I do not think I was really doing it because I was actually horny but it was most likely out of just sheer boredom.
Although I still remember when I was in elementary school and this one time I just went into the bathroom to jerk off because I was horny as f… and I could not resist that temptation.
And I was only like ten years old…
So I may very well have been just a horny little kid back in my younger years.
I’m not sure if that’s normal because I haven’t really talked to anyone.
Let me know in the comments if you have done something similar…
As with any addiction, it started out as a way to seek pleasure but it slowly developed into becoming an ingrained habit.
Whenever I was bored or feeling slightly down, I’d just mindlessly default to watching porn for hours.
So, what was the turning point for me to decide to go on nofap…?
I’m sure this is the case for most guys who go on nofap but I randomly stumbled upon a video that talked about all the benefits of nofap.
And I certainly didn’t feel very happy and fulfilled wasting hours of my life on watching porn so I figured why not give it a try.
I was also studying in school at the time and I struggled a lot with maintaining my focus whenever I was trying to study and read.
And one of the promised benefits of nofap was an improved mental clarity which was appealing to me.
So, I begin my journey of nofap and let me just tell you…
It was not easy at all in the first few days.
As with any addiction, I felt that strong withdrawal effect very and I had an overwhelming temptation to open that porn site and jerk off furiously.
But I also noticed I seem to have more clean energy when I interact with people – if that makes any sense – and I was able to keep stronger and steadier eye contact with people.
This was a big enough motivation for me to continue since I had severe social anxiety at the time.
And it may very well have been a coincidence but it was also around this time that I met my first girlfriend and finally lost my virginity.
It most likely did contribute to attracting my first girlfriend because I was more engaged and present in a conversation when I interact with people.
I also noticed a difference in my workout after I started nofap.
I used to get drained quickly and lose my focus frequently when I was addicted to masturbating.
But since I started nofap, I could really feel my body performing at a higher level which allowed me to make more consistent progress in the gym.
It all goes to back to having a better focus and mental clarity.
Whatever area you are trying to improve, it’s vital that you are able to focus on the task at hand or your productivity will be cut in half.
And nofap really helped (at least I believe so) with that.
In terms of maintaining an erection, I also noticed a substantial difference.
This was especially obvious when I was in a relationship.
When my sexual attraction toward my ex-girlfriend diminished a few months after I got into my relationship, I broke my nofap and started masturbating frequently while watching porn.
Needless to say, it completely exacerbated the problem and I lost complete interest in having sex with my girlfriend at the time.
I could very rarely get hard and even when I did, it would only last a short while.
Reverting back to that porn addiction pretty much completely ruined my sexual relationship with my ex-girlfriend.
But when I stopped masturbating and watching porn, I was able to get hard again without too much issue.
Even when I started going out a lot and hooking up with a lot of girls, I noticed that I just don’t really have that potency in the way I present myself to others when I’m actively masturbating.
Let me just note that this isn’t the case for everyone.
I had a few friends who’d masturbate daily and their sexual drive still wasn’t affected.
If you are one of those people then count yourself lucky.
But it certainly wasn’t the case for me.
I want to now give my two cents on why I believe nofap may be the right choice for you.
First, watching porn and masturbating is an addiction for a lot of people.
Yes, I know you don’t necessarily have to watch porn to be masturbating.
But I think it’s safe to say most guys do watch porn when they masturbate.
So, whenever something becomes your addiction, then there is a natural side effect that follows.
One obvious problem is you are wasting a lot of hours on consuming porn and it’s not just the time you spend watching porn and masturbating.
Do you notice it’s extremely tough to focus on anything for at least an hour or even several hours after you watch porn?
You could easily be wasting three to four hours of your life every day if you are a porn addict.
And if you couple that with all those sexual thoughts that linger in your head when you are not watching porn, then it can easily add up to seven to eight hours a day.
So, if you get eight hours of sleep a day and you spend sixteen hours a day awake… then you may very well be spending half of your waking hours doing nothing but thinking about masturbating and porn.
Sounds like an exaggeration?
I’m sure anyone who’s suffered from porn addiction will understand that it’s a very realistic scenario.
But more importantly…
It also destroys your confidence – at least it did for me.
I think I heard this from Ed Mylett, one of the famous influencers.
“You build confidence by keeping promises you make to yourself”
That may be a promise you made to yourself to wake up at six in the morning every day.
Or it may be a promise you made to yourself to read twenty pages of a book a day.
As you keep those little promises you make to yourself on a daily basis, your brain starts to realize that you can rely on yourself.
That your words actually mean something…
And who do you trust?
Someone who is reliable and someone who does what he said he was going to do.
You don’t spend hours watching porn and masturbating because you derive such fulfillment from doing so.
It’s an addiction that you want to break out of.
And you try to quit it but you often end up reverting back to your old habit.
What does that to your confidence level?
It diminishes further and further and eventually hits rock bottom.
And how do you act in front of others when you are not feeling confident and good about yourself?
You slouch forward… you don’t make proper eye contact… you speak with uncertainty…
All those bad behaviors creep up when you are not in the right head space.
So, I really can’t imagine a scenario where you won’t become more productive and happier by cutting out porn from your life or at least reducing it significantly.
Although I wouldn’t go as far as saying that nofap is needed for everyone.
But, If you are suffering from severe porn addiction and you routinely spend hours masturbating, then nofap may very well be worth giving a shot.
Just don’t judge it until you give it a try.
So many guys love to live in their little ivory towers and cite this and that research talking about why you should or shouldn’t do something.
It’s like people who argue over the internet whether keto diet is the best… or if paleo diet is the best for losing weight.
It really serves no practical purpose other than wasting your time in most instances.
Simply give it a try and be honest with whether you think the quality of your life has improved as a result of it.
If it did, then continue and re-assess every now and then to see if it’s worth continuing.
Even if it’s a placebo effect, who gives a flying f… if your life still improves as a result of you believing in it?
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