So, is it really true women like… or love muscle?
I first got into lifting when I entered my first year of university.
I know a lot of guys start lifting because of girls but that certainly was not the case for me.
If I really had to dig deep into my core reason, it most likely had more to do with me wanting more respect from other men than girls.
I started out as a morbidly obese kid weighing close to 240-250 lbs at a height of 5’10 with no muscle mass at all.
There was one rather traumatizing experience that fueled me to start lifting.
I was in my last year of high school and we were testing our grip strength with one of those grippers in the gym class.
Everyone in the class went for it first and I was the last guy to test my grip strength in front of everyone.
As I was about to go for it, my gym teacher made some comment telling me not to accidentally break it… implying I’d score really well on my grip strength.
Looking back, he probably got that idea because I was one of those fat kids who had somewhat of even fat distribution.
So people kind of assumed I must be somewhat strong.
But anyway… I squeezed that gripper as hard as I can like my life depended on it… and I got one of the lowest scores in the class.
And that really shouldn’t have been a surprising result considering I was just a huge nerd who sat on my bum all day for more than ten hours per day playing World of Warcraft.
On a side note, I also suffered a lot from bullying growing up – not physical but verbal – mainly because of my accent and because I couldn’t speak proper English at the time.
To make it even worse, I suffered from quite severe social anxiety which made it even more difficult to speak coherently in front of other people.
For all of those reasons, I really just yearned for that respect from people and I just wanted people to take me more seriously.
I’m sure you may be able to relate because a lot of people who get into learning about dating or pick up are people who generally come from lower points even compared to most average people.
Most usually have suffered from pretty severe social anxiety, shyness, and awkwardness so I don’t think I’m that special snowflake who had it tougher than others.
Anyway, I’m sure you understand what I mean when I say I just wanted more respect.
It wasn’t like I wanted to dominate others and be the alpha dog.
I just wanted the same degree of respect all the other guys were getting.
So, all these reasons combined really fueled me to get into lifting.
Because I most likely associated being physically strong with more power and respect in my brain.
Throughout years of lifting, I’ve been different body weights ranging from 160lb extremely skinny… around 200lb relatively built… and also 250lb just all fat.
I should also note that most of my friends who got great results with women were either somewhat chubby or skinny.
So I think I have a pretty good real-life experience of how much muscles really matter.
So, do women like muscle…?
Well, I think you and I both know the answer to this.
It’s pretty obvious that both guys and girls are attracted to the opposite sex who are fit and healthy.
So, having more muscle will most certainly be advantageous for you (unless you look like a freak on steroids) when it comes to attracting girls.
There is no doubt about that.
There is also another reason why muscle can be a turn on for girls.
And that is because it can symbolize dominance.
It is no secret that many girls are turned on by dominance under the right circumstance and when she feels safe with you.
There are many different ways to amplify that dominance.
You can use your voice to exude dominance if you have a deep voice.
You can use your height if you are tall.
You can use your dick if you have a big dick.
You can use your muscle if you are jacked.
You can perhaps communicate your dominance with your unwavering eye contact.
You can also show your dominance through your behavior.
It is important to note that if you don’t know how to carry yourself properly then no amount of height, voice, and muscles will save you.
You can be tall… have all the muscles in the world… but if you walk around slouching forward looking down and appearing very uptight… it’s not going to do you any good.
As I said earlier, I was fortunate enough to hang out with guys of all shapes and sizes.
And my conclusion is it matters a heck of a lot less than what most incels think.
Yes, there are some girls who have a preference for a very muscular dude just like there are guys who only care about that booty.
But they are the minority.
Let me also tell you this…
Putting all those time in the gym certainly is not worth all the effort if you are only doing it for girls. Trust me on that.
Your return on investment just makes it completely not worth it.
If you are doing it for your health and confidence, however, that is perfect.
There is one beautiful thing about lifting in that you can track your progress so easily.
Especially if you track your progress by the amount of weight you lift.
Because when you gain that ten pounds on your bench press, there is no doubt that your body has leveled up.
And think about when you feel most confident about yourself.
I bet it is when you are making some sort of progress in your life toward something.
So, lifting definitely is a great hobby to take up for boosting your confidence.
On a side note, I’ll also give you my two cents on what muscles matter the most when it comes to building that visually appealing physique.
Although I’m not sure if I should because the last thing I want you to do is to obsess over looks.
But since we are already on the topic, why not talk about it…?
The first question we need to answer is to find out the most important quality that leads to a visually appealing physique.
In my opinion, it is the shape of your body. For a girl, it may be that hourglass figure. For a guy, it may be that nice V-taper.
So, what gives that nice shape to your body?
Before we talk about muscle, it should be emphasized that you first need to have a low body fat with a relatively slim waist.
No amount of muscle will give your body a nice shape when you have a fifty-inch belly.
When it comes to muscle, you want to build your back as wide as you can which can be accomplished with a ton of pull-ups (and weighted pull-ups).
Your shoulders also play a big part in giving that nice final touch to your physique.
You also want to make sure that every muscle is evenly developed so nothing looks out of proportion.
But those first three points are really the key in my mind when it comes to building that visually appealing physique.
I just want to end this article by saying I’ve never seen a guy who obsesses over his looks to be great with girls.
It’s one thing to take good care of your hygiene and make sure you look clean but totally another thing to stand in front of a mirror for thirty minutes staring at your face.
And I do have a pretty good idea of why these guys turn out to be weird and awkward.
It’s because most guys who obsess over looks tend to be extremely focused on themselves.
If you are spending hours a day thinking about your appearance, what is your brain going to default into thinking when you are talking to people?
You are automatically going to be thinking about how you look in front of the person you are talking to… or if the person is judging your appearance.
What does this do?
It massively puts you in your head.
And constantly getting in your head is the biggest enemy when it comes to maintaining that nice flow in the interaction with girls.
So, make sure you are clean and take care of your hygiene and lift for your own benefit.
But don’t try to micromanage your looks because that will certainly backfire on you.
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