I’m sorry I’m not into Asian guys…
These may perhaps be the words you most dread to hear when you approach white girls
Well.. I have some good news and some bad news if you are Asian (or Indian or any other “emasculated” racial minorities living in the western culture for that matter)
But I want to briefly talk about this one thing first before anything else.
I hear a lot of guys (including many Asian dating coaches) trying to ridicule Asian guys for putting white girls on a pedestal… as if they are “above” that.
And I think it’s quite comical because the same dudes cover their bodies with tattoos or obsess over followers on Instagram.
So what are the possible reasons you may find white girls more attractive compared to other race?
1. You grew up in a predominantly white neighborhood and you are most familiar to being around caucasian people
2. You are just more attracted their whiter skin-complexion
3. You hate your mom and Asian girls remind you of your mom (same reason why some Asian girls don’t like Asian guys)
4. You subconsciously desire to prove to others that you have no problem getting with white girls (because media likes to have you believe that Asian guys have no shot with hot white girls)
What point am I trying to make?
EVERYONE is driven (to a certain extent) by what we normally consider “petty” desire in one way or another.
Some more and some less than others.
But we ALL are governed by those emotions to at least some degree.
So if you have a strong preference toward certain race.. there really is nothing “wrong” with you per se.
It does possibly show, however, that.. you are putting too much value on external validation over your own – which is something you want to work on in the long run.
So anyway, what makes me “qualified” to talk about this topic anyway?
You can read my full story in my bio but here are some brief key points of what I went through.
-Started out as a kissless and hugless virgin at 26 years old. My brother who is 5’4 Asian (obviously..) lost his virginity at the age of 14 had no problem getting girls throughout his life. This was an obvious sign that I’m not getting any result with girls because I’m fucked in the “head”.
-“Luckily” manage to lose my virginity to a girl who was into Asian culture… she pretty much threw herself on my lap
-Toxic relationship ensued for two years. She would talk to her ex-boyfriend(s) whenever we got into a fight. I’m almost 99.98% certain she would’ve physically cheated on me if any of her ex-boyfriends were still living in the city at the time I was seeing her.
-Finally broke up with her after a dreaded 2-year long relationship.
-I was left as a 28-year-old dude who’s only been with one girl and never (My ex even initiated a conversation with me) ever approached a girl in his life.
-I was in dental school at this point and thought to myself, what the fuck am I doing with all these bullshit if I’m never even going to be able to meet someone who cares for me..? For some of you, your desire to please your parents may be a driving force. But it wasn’t the case for me because my parents demonstrated very clearly that their needs come first before their kids. So I always felt there’s no one that “actually” cares for me in this world. And I just wanted to find that “one” person who will be by my side through all the ups and downs (as homosexual as it may sound).
-At this point, I was genuinely worried I might end up as one of those 40~50 year-old CEO (or a dentist) who ends up on news for sexually abusing his secretary (or assistant). Not trying to say I was a complete mental degenerate but I had to come to accept that not having done “normal” things that most others experienced around my age was having some profoundly negative effect on my mental development.
-Made up in my mind that I either fix this or “die trying”. There was no alternative.
-Once I made that mental shift, I was able to approach every girl like a maniac every night I went out.
-Luckily ended up with friends (or wings if you want to be all pua) who are all cool and ALL of us quickly became known as some of the best guys in the country (Power of environmental exposure..).
-It was a brutal process, however. ALL of my friends were taller (6’3~6’4 average height) and they were ALL very good looking. And I was the only racial minority in the group apart from another friend who was Arab. Every night we went out, there would always be some girl coming up and telling my friend that her friend thinks he’s gorgeous.
-Not only did they have all the physical attributes going for themselves but they were all very social (None of us yet had what I’d consider a “masterful” game because we were all still learning back then).
-“Objectively” speaking, I had no shot at competing against any one of them.
-And that’s exactly what happened… at least for the first few months.
-I made a conscious decision, however, to embrace the fact I’m going out with guys who have an advantage over me in every way. Because I knew that was the shortcut to success as long as I was willing to go through a shit ton of traumatizing experience.
-I was pretty much “forced” to adapt through much trauma.. after months of having girls stolen by my friends.
-Eventually, I reached a point where I was pretty much on equal footing with all of my friends.
-At the end of the day, I went from being a hopeless 28-year-old virgin to picking up two to three new chicks nearly every single week once I figured this shit out.
-And most of the girls I picked up were white girls (in Australia although I live in Canada at the moment. Australian girls are known as some of the bitchiest girls especially toward Asian) coupled with a few black girls.. and I didn’t say that to emphasize the “white girl” part… but because I know a lot of Asian guys have a limiting belief when it comes to attracting girls of other races.
Ok… that went a bit longer than what I had planned on writing.
So what exactly have I learned from all those crazy experiences I had?
I simply want you to realize this one simple fact.
Whatever you think that’s holding you back from having that dream dating life – is probably not a major factor for your lackluster success.
I’ve started out with every possible limiting belief that you can think of – being a kissless and hugless 26-year-old virgin and all that..
What I’ve come to realize from having all these insane experiences is that “nothing” is as big of a deal as we make it out to be in our head.
If you are able to approach girls confidently despite whatever flaws you may have, you WILL eventually find a girl who is compatible with you both in terms of looks and personality.
Will it take more effort than a guy who is tall and good looking?
Yes, it will.
But so what?
It’s always more fun to be the underdog and accomplish things that no one thought you’d be able to achieve than the other way around.
So I just want you to ask this question to yourself next time you feel like giving up.
What are the alternatives..?
Anyway, that’s it for today.
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