How much time has been wasted for guys wondering if that crush of theirs are into them or not?
I want to put an end to this age-old question so you can stop worrying about whether a girl likes you or not and channel that focus on something more productive instead.
As much as I love encouraging guys to just man the F up and ask a girl out, there is definitely time and place to gauge a girl’s interest.
For example, when you are asking a girl out from school or work, you would want to make sure there is sufficient evidence that the girl is at least somewhat attracted to you.
Let me do say, however, that I would normally not recommend hitting on girls at work or school.
There are millions of girls you can talk to and it simply does not make sense for you to risk your career or causing extra headaches for yourself by getting involved with girls from your social settings.
With that being said, you will most likely learn something in this article that will potentially save your career or your hard-earned reputation if you decide to do it anyway.
Let’s start out with the first and that is…
We pay more attention to something that we like and are interested in.
When a girl gives you a compliment and she notices a subtle change in you, then there is a very good chance she is at least somewhat intrigued by you.
Let me give you my personal experience to illustrate this point.
There was this blonde Russian chick at the gym I had a thing with a while ago.
I would usually see her about two to three times a week at the gym and this one time I came to the gym with a new haircut and she immediately noticed it.
She said something along the lines of how the haircut looks good on me and that is the first thing she noticed when she came to the gym.
You probably noticed how she emphasized it is the first thing she noticed.
Contrast that with another girl that notices your haircut and tells you it looks good on you with a friendly tone.
There are only a few words difference between the two but a “noticeable” difference in the interest level of a girl.
The Russian girl in the first scenario made it clearly known it was the “first” thing she noticed when she came to the gym.
She essentially wanted me to realize that she pays attention to me and is interested.
Girls will almost never (in 99% of cases) ever overtly tell you that she likes you or are interested in you.
She will very subtly communicate to you her interest level and “hope” you will catch on to it.
So it is important that you pick up on these subtleties if you want to gauge a girl’s interest level as accurately as you can.
Is it just a generic comment or compliment that she would make to any strangers or is there something more in what she said or even the way (Her tone… and how she looked at you while saying it) she said it?
You need to be able to ask and answer these questions as you gain more experience with women and learn to understand them better.
Let’s move on…
The second point is to see if…
I know… I know.
You heard about this millions of times and you realize when someone has their body and feet pointing toward you, then it means they like you.
But it’s always good to review the basics and fully ingrain it into your brain so you can pick up on these cues without even thinking about it.
So why is this such a useful clue?
Well, all of us have been programmed to lie or hide our intention pretty well with words from a very young age.
Can you remember the first time you told a lie?
I can’t pinpoint the exact moment but I’m pretty sure I was as young as four or five years old when I first lied about something.
The point is, most of us are experts at BS’ing with words.
But the same doesn’t quite apply when it comes to body language.
Almost no one consciously pays attention to their body language to hide or deceive others, and that is exactly why it is a much more honest cue than what the girl spews out of her mouth.
It really is fascinating how your brain subconsciously guides your body toward something that you are interested in or fascinated by.
Next time you are at the gym or you are training, pay attention to what your body does when you spot a girl you are attracted to.
You will notice that, more often than not, you are facing toward her direction (This little “experiment” would obviously be only viable when you realize it after).
So if you notice a girl has her body constantly facing toward you when she could be facing toward any other direction, there is a very good chance she is intrigued by you.
Just don’t forget to double check to make sure she’s not staring at your tall good looking friend that is standing behind you…
The third point is…
Yes… once again, something you’ve heard many times.
But what I want to talk about is not so much on whether she holds eye contact with you or not, but rather the frequency of how often she looks toward your direction.
Many girls are just like us guys.
They feel uncomfortable holding eye contact with you (minus the ones who are very confident) especially when they find you attractive.
But what they will do is they will constantly gaze toward the area you are lurking.
When you are out and you see a girl constantly looking toward your direction, that may very well be her invitation for you to approach her.
So what’s the psychology behind this?
Well, here is my little bro-science that has yet to been proven by science so take it for what it’s worth.
When we are interested in someone, we want to be noticed by them.
It is not so much that the girl is hoping you would notice her from the fact she is constantly looking toward your direction.
But rather she is constantly “checking” to see if you have noticed her by any chance.
It is like a little kid constantly checking under the Christmas tree to see if his Christmas gift has arrived yet.
So if you want to gauge a girl’s interest level, it is often a better idea to pay attention to how often she looks toward your direction rather than if she holds eye contact with you or not.
One last thing I want to note is…
Generally speaking, the girl’s voice softens up when she talks to someone she likes.
If a girl talks to you with a very masculine and professional tone, then there is a good chance she does not yet feel a very strong attraction toward you.
Girls generally pull out her “professional” tone when she’s talking to guys she does not really want to continue talking.
It is basically her way of communicating to you with her tone that she wants you to Eff off.
On the other hand, a softer tone indicates she is being her natural feminine submissive self under your presence.
You obviously want to make sure and pay attention to how she normally speaks to others.
It may not mean much if she tends to speak with a softer tone regardless of who she is talking to.
I want to touch on one more point before the end of this article.
As I mentioned earlier in this article, there is time and place for gauging a girl’s interest but there are also times when you just have to take the plunge.
Say you are out at the bar or a club and you see an attractive girl.
There is a good chance you will never ever see her again in your life once she disappears.
In situations like that, I believe you simply should take the plunge and go for it even if you don’t see any signs of interest.
In the worst case scenario, you will get rejected and move on.
In the best case scenario, you may end up forming an amazing memory with the girl.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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