In this article, I’m going to talk about why you actually have an advantage with hot girls if you are an ugly mo-fo.
And to really understand this, let’s dive a little into the world of your average hot girls versus ugly girls.
Let me just be clear that I’m not talking about a world-class celebrity type of hot girls but your average hot girl next door type.
So starting with hot girls… they are frequently exposed to hot dudes and end up even dating a lot of those dudes in high school and in their twenties and such.
This means good looking dudes are not some sort of mythical creature for these girls. And they have been exposed good looks enough times that they’ve become sort of desensitized to it.
Yes.. yes I know…
Everyone responds to good looks to a certain degree and I know there are millions of study showing that looks matter and all.
The point I’m making is that “good looks” simply don’t have as much emotional impact on these girls compared to say, not so attractive girls.
In a sense, they’ve seen what’s in the closet hiding behind those good looks.
All those spiderwebs, rats and everything that nobody wants to deal with.
It is like you dying to get that toy for Christmas for months in advance when you were a kid.
You were thinking how much more awesome your life would be once you get those toys and how much fun you’d have.
You had all this anticipation and excitement about getting that toy.
But once you finally did get them, you realized it’s not as special and exciting as you thought it would be.
On the other hand, it’s a little different story for girls who weren’t so attractive growing up.
They almost never really got attention from good looking guys in high school.
It was always her pretty looking friend Jenny, who stole all the attention from good looking guys.
And because “good looking guys” were more scarce for her growing up, her desire for them grew stronger and stronger as years went by.
To make it even worse, because she’s never had much experience with good looking guys, she started developing all these false ideas about them.
She thinks good looking guys peepees would taste like a Lollipop and they would shit diamonds.
Similar to the idea most average guys have about hot girls when they don’t have much experience with them.
So, how exactly does this relate ugly guys having a better chance with hot girls?
Say you are an average or a below average looking guy who exudes a lot of confidence.
When you approach hot girls, you will most likely be one of the few ugly guys she’s ever come across in her life – who approached her with confidence.
And it almost works like a pattern interrupt and messes with her brain a little because it is something that she’s not used to.
As a result, she will get more curious about you.
This doesn’t really happen when she comes across good looking guys. She’s already been with enough good looking guys and her brain subconsciously has most likely formed a certain bias toward them.
And as I always say, it is always good to get a girl to become curious about you.
Because the more curious she becomes about you, the more she thinks about you. And the more she thinks about you, the more you grow in her mind.
The opposite applies when you approach average girls or below-average looking girls.
Because these girls have a much stronger desire to be validated for looks – since they haven’t gotten much growing up – they’ll respond much stronger to good looking guys.
And you will be able to really notice this when you approach these girls with a friend who’s really good looking by the societal standard.
From my personal experience, whenever I’d be talking to average girls with a friend who’s very good looking, I’d often notice the girl’s attention just entirely shifts to my friend right from the get-go. And it was often more difficult to get the girl’s attention back with my “game”.
And let me just clarify that this was back in the “experimental” stage where my friends and I did a whole bunch of random stuff to test what girls respond to.
It would normally not be a good idea to approach one girl at the same time with your buddy because you’re putting too much pressure on her. But, this wasn’t really a problem for us as we got better at making girls feel more comfortable.
What’s worse is that you’re over-validating the girl making it unnecessarily difficult for both you and your friend.
Anyway, we got a little sidetracked there…
But, I strongly believe this is also the reason why my short Filipino friend gets with much hotter chicks on average than my 6’2 gorgeous looking friend.
And when I say gorgeous, that is not my words but rather words from girls who see this guy at the club.
My good looking friend approaches girls in a very direct way showing his intent very clearly that he’s already sold on them. This works great with girls who sort of fall below his level in terms of physical attractiveness.
But it often loses its power when you are talking to a girl who sees herself as more physically attractive than you are.
Because with such direct style of interaction, you are essentially confirming her belief that you are on the lower totem pole than she is.
On the other hand, my short Asian friend has much more confident yet relaxed style of approach and that actually makes girls become more intrigued by him.
And this makes him stand out even more to hot girls as I said earlier.
Because they almost never see a short Asian guy who’s able to approach them with such confidence while still being relaxed and comfortable around them.
So, let’s now talk about how exactly you can make yourself stand out from the rest of the guys.
Well, you first need to start out by asking this question.
Do most guys have an abundant option when it comes to dating life?
It depends on how you define abundance but I would argue most guys don’t exactly have an ample amount of options in dating life.
That is unless they have high status or they work in an environment where they are constantly meeting new girls on a daily basis.
And let’s think about how most guys carry themselves…
Most guys make sure they are very careful in what they say so they don’t accidentally offend the girls that they talk to.
Most guys walk around looking dead and uptight and with no sense of purpose.
Most guys speak with a weak tone and walk with a poor posture that makes them appear small so they don’t stand out.
Many guys spend hours on the internet complaining about their looks, height and everything that they can’t change.
So, a good place to start is to do exactly the opposite of what these guys are doing.
Because if you do the same things these guys are doing then you will most likely end up exactly like them.
And this means you should strive to walk with relaxedness but also with a clear sense of purpose.
You should speak with conviction and actually sound like you believe in what you say.
You should stop wasting all your energy on complaining about everything you can’t change and start putting all the focus on things that you can.
I know it sounds cliche when I say that, but really think about how many hours you are spending a day dwelling over things that are out of your control.
Imagine if you spent all that time solely focused on things that are actually within your control.
Maybe it’s joining a toastmaster to improve your public speaking ability.
Maybe it’s joining an improv class to improve your humor.
Or maybe it’s enrolling in a dance class to learn how to have better control over your body.
Whatever area it is that you want to improve, how much further along would you be in your personal development if you were able to eradicate all those wasted time dwelling over things that you can’t change?
And finally, I’ll end with this because I know some of you mo-fos are going to cite all these female celebrities who are married to or in a relationship with this and that attractive dude.
You need to realize not only do these guys have good looks and high status but they also carry themselves like a high-status man.
How many guys do you see carry themselves like a high-value guy in front of attractive girls on a day-to-day or even a month-to-month basis?
It’s very rare. Most guys usually turn into a gigantic pu..y and supplicate in front of girls they find attractive.
So, if you can carry yourself like a boss in front of these girls, then you will become the guy who really stands the f… out in her mind.
Please log in again. The login page will open in a new tab. After logging in you can close it and return to this page.