Why exactly should you learn how to date White girls if you are an Asian guy living in the West.
I know this is a pretty controversial topic and I’ll probably get a lot of hate for writing this…
But it is truly how I feel.
And this belief became even more strengthened as I started being more active in Asian dating group.
I see posts in these Asian dating Facebook groups daily from both men and women expressing their dating concerns.
And it just breaks my heart reading some of these posts.
So why is that…?
Because Asian guys don’t stand up for themselves.
I come across posts of Asian women subtly putting down Asian guys on a daily basis in these groups.
And when I say “stand up”, I don’t mean you should insult Asian girls back for chasing men from other races.
Standing up means saying, “Oh that’s fine, fugg your little pancake booty (just kidding… don’t get butthurt), I’m going to just go and hit on these big-bootied White, black, or latina girls instead”
Hey… there are a lot of sweet Asian girls out there but there are also a lot of manipulative ones.
They try to subtly gain power over you by implying that Asian guys can’t get girls of other race and deluding themselves into believing that Asian girls are the most desirable by guys of all races.
By the way, it is not even true that Asian girls are the most desirable apart from a minority dudes who develop some sort of fetish for Asian girls from years of watching Japanese porn (If you are one of the normal dudes who’s into Asian girls, then kindly disregard this statement but you certainly are not the majority based on my experience…)
How do you stop letting her walk all over you like a little frigging doormat?
The answer is simple.
By having other options that are just as good if not better than her.
Once you have options, that girl can no longer manipulate you into being her little puppy.
It is much tougher for Asian guys to succeed in the world (western) of dating.
And I won’t even touch on how media affects a girl’s perception and all that stuff because you already heard that gazillion times.
But what is even worse is how it affects the perception of yourself.
Since the day you are born, the media has been labeling you with all these BS identities.
“You Asian guys are supposed to study hard and be a good quietly spoken boy and get a stable career… Oh and by the way, Asian guys are supposed to be boring and suck dick with girls so don’t even try”
This is the type of message that’s been fed to a lot of us for the entirety of our lives.
Let me give you a story by Tony Robbins that perfectly illustrates this…
Tony was at the circus this one time and saw a big elephant. He saw people at the circus taking their rope and wrapping it around the elephant’s neck to drive this stake into the ground.
The elephant obviously had enough power to destroy the entire tent but it did not even bother trying.
Because the elephant was fully conditioned.
The elephant was conditioned since birth.
When they initially wrapped those big ropes around it, the elephant resisted and resisted.
And then one day, the elephant gave up and accepted that is how it is going to be for the remainder of its life.”
That’s essentially what happens to a lot of Asian dudes and their dating lives.
The amount of mental hurdles that you have to overcome as an Asian dude for you to get your dating life handled is unmatched compared to guys of other races.
So if you are an Asian dude who figured out this whole dating thing in the West, then give yourself pat on the back because it is NOT easy.
But back to the topic, I really do genuinely feel bad for a lot of Asian guys who are mistreated by Asian (some) girls.
When an Asian girl puts other Asian guys down and says BS like, “I don’t date Asian guys because they are short and ugly”… what many Asian guys do is just do nothing and remain passive.
I still remember the first time I went out to talk to a stranger.
I was never really into Asian girls to begin with because I’m more of a booty guy and that’s a rarer quality in Asian girls.
But my friend who I was out with encouraged me to go talk to this Asian girl just so I can get into more social mood.
When I went up to her and said hi, she gave me the most disgusted look and blew me off.
I could’ve made two choices back then.
I could’ve either said fuck trying to learn about this whole dating thing and gave up which a lot of guys do.
Or I could’ve told myself, “I’m not going home until I have at least one girl smile back at me and talk to me”
And that is exactly what I did. I kept talking to girls until I had this amazing interaction with one cute tall white girl and got her number.
You can let incidents like that crush you or use it as a fuel to keep pushing forward.
Don’t get me wrong. You don’t always have to use those traumatic incidents as fuel to push yourself in “every” area of your life.
For example, if you are learning martial arts as a hobby and you get your ass beat by a sparring partner, it would not make sense for you to start training 12 hours a day just to beat him.
Unless your goal is to become a professional fighter.
So you really need to decide for yourself what is important and what is worth channeling your energy and focus on.
And for me, I knew I had to get this whole dating thing handled.
Otherwise, I knew I was destined to become one of those weird creepy old dudes and I would hate myself.
That fear drove me to keep trying over and over again despite countless rejections until I finally became the type of person I wanted to become.
So it is your turn to ask yourself these questions.
WHY do you need to fix your dating life?
WHY do you need to get this handled?
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