I came across one video on Youtube the other day and it infuriated me.
And it is the reason why I decided to write a post about this topic.
So, what was the video about?
It was a long video, but here is the basic summary of the video.
The video talks about how Asian men are the least desirable group, and you are basically out of luck if you are born as an Asian men in the Western countries.
The guy in the video went into great detail about why you are better off giving up on dating if you are an Asian men, and he supported all of his claims with statistics and such.
But, the video was clearly designed to make
Asian men feel inadequate.
So, why did I get so pissed off?
I still remember when I was a virgin at the age of 26-years-old, and any time I would come across videos like that, it just took me to darker and darker places.
Those type of videos only served to amplify my victim mentality, and put me into a state of contraction rather than motivating me to take action to better my life.
So, I know there is a good chance that there were Asian men who were probably watching that video and thinking to themselves, “Yeah.. I shouldn’t even bother trying to improve my dating life.”
And the fact that there is a good chance someone watching that video without enough real-life experience may accept what he says as the absolute truth made me mad.
With that being said, let me go ahead and discuss some of the things that were brought up in the video.
Almost 40% of Asian women do not consider Asian men as their potential mate
So, what message was the video creator trying to convey with these statistics?
He wanted to state that Asian men are not even desirable to Asian women.
So, how bad is it really?
Is it really true that men from other races are stealing all Asian girls?
This is far from the truth if you use a little bit of common sense.
I want you to go out and see it for yourself.
Go out to any heavily populated area and observe (Asian) people.
You would notice that it is not difficult to see an Asian male and Asian female couples.
There are still plenty of Asian women who prefer Asian men.
Average chubby White guy has better luck with girls than an Asian model?
This statement is actually hilarious because it could not be further from the truth.
And this is how you can get a sense that the guy in the video probably does not have much real-life experience with women.
Because the only way he could believe such thing is if he lacks real-life experience to know
what women find attractive.
I can say with confidence from years of going out that most women would prefer an
attractive Asian man over an average man from other races.
Your overall attractiveness plays a much bigger role in attracting women than your race alone.
If you are an attractive man, then you are an attractive man regardless of your race, and girls will still love you.
Asian men are hopeless because of their height? Your looks matter. Your personality matters. Your bank account matters.
your height matters too.
But, so what?
If attracting girl was all about height, why did my 5’4 brother lose his virginity at the age of 14 while I (being 5’11+) was a virgin until the age of 26?
The answer is quite straightforward.
My head was in a completely messed up space, and no amount of physical advantage made up for my lack of
confidence and personality.
Many men over-estimate the importance of height.
Yes, there are some girls who only like tall guys, and there are some girls who only like rich guys.
It is same as how there are some men who would only go for girls with plastic breasts or big bottom.
But, you have no reason to waste your time worrying about this as there are enough women who do not care much about height.
I had even witnessed a short Asian man stealing a girl away from my 6’2 good looking friend (who didn’t exactly have bad game either) because of his sheer charisma and charm.
Many girls respond extremely well if you have a great confidence and an amazing personality.
The problem is most guys simply don’t possess these traits.
As a final note, this video ended with Asian girls belittling Asian guys for their small body during the interview.
That segment really made me realize why Asian men need to learn game.
It is so you can have an abundance of options in your dating life, and you do not have to take crap fom those low-quality girls.
It actually saddens me when I see an Asian man stuck in a relationship where he has to deal with all the BS from his girlfriend.
He stays with his girlfriend by rationalizing to himself that relationship is about making things work and being patient.
But, deep down, he knows he is only holding onto that relationship because he feels like he can’t do any better.
He secretly believes that there is no other girl who would give him a shot, or it may take years for him to find a new girl.
And I know exactly what it feels like to be that
needy guy without any other alternatives.
My first girlfriend would routinely text her ex-boyfriend(s) whenever we would have an fight.
I failed to set a strong boundary, and I let her
walk all over me when she engaged in such behavior.
Rather, I indirectly communicated to her that she can do whatever she wants because I have no power to stop her.
As a result, she started losing respect for me over time.
We dragged on that toxic relationship for two years until it finally came to an end.
I just want to emphasize it really is not as bad as how some people make it out to be for an Asian man in the dating market.
As long as you know how to present yourself as an attractive man, you will do fine.
I wish you the best of luck!