How many times have you heard people say it is creepy to approach a girl you do not know?
I don’t know how much experience you have going out, but it is a very commonly spread belief among a lot of beta males (please excuse me if you are one of those beta males…) and feminists.
“You should not approach her… it will make her feel uncomfortable!”
“You should not bother her… she is busy”
So I want to give my take on this in this article.
Here’s my simple answer.
And that is… IF you approach her properly… there is a very good chance you are going to be the highlight of her day.
Let me tell you a story that’s happened to me a few days ago to illustrate my point.
I was out walking my dog at the beach a few days ago.
As I was walking on the beach… I, along with tens of other people on the beach noticed this unique ship sailing toward the beach.
It probably took about 10-15 minutes for the ship to arrive at the beach.
During this time, nearly every single one of them that was walking along the beach had completely stopped what they were doing to see what’s going on.
It turns out the ship was carrying a dead person.
But here is the point of the story.
Most people are bored out of their mind.
They subconsciously wish something interesting would happen as they go about their day.
Have you ever tracked how much time you spend on your social media accounts?
Most people easily spend hours on it without even realizing it.
Why do people scroll through Instagram and Facebook for hours a day?
Because they are hoping they will come across something that will entertain them.
If you can approach her in a confident manner and share positive energy with her, then there is a very good chance you will be the highlight of her day… or weeks… or months.
But a lot of guys are brainwashed into believing it is not appropriate to talk to random girls because they heard some little loser say it’s creepy to do so.
And that simply is how a lot of guys approach everything in life.
Not starting a business because others say it is most likely to fail according to statistics.
Not going to the gym because others say you need good genetics to gain muscle.
It is time for you to make up your own mind and decide for yourself what is and is not creepy.
Once again, if you learn how to approach her in a confident manner, then you will most likely brighten up her day as opposed to making her feel uncomfortable.
Yes… I know there are a lot of guys who have no clue how to approach girls and they end up creeping girls out.
But if you have been reading my past articles and actually implemented some of my advice, you should know by now how not to approach girls in a creepy way.
Here is some good rule of thumb to follow to not creep a girl out.
1. Do not follow her when she clearly looks uncomfortable and is walking away from you.
This seems like such a common sense but some guys are so socially unaware that they need to be explicitly told to not do this.
If her body is facing away from you and she starts walking fast to get away from you, then do NOT follow her or walk with her.
Following a girl around when she is physically trying to get away from you is about the creepiest thing you can do.
Not only does it show you completely lack awareness but it will also make her scared for her life.
And she may very well call cops on you.
2. Your intention has to be clearly communicated in one form or another.
I normally prefer to do this via sub-communication because I try my best to stay away from making generic compliments. But it is fine to state your intention directly if your sub-communication is not exactly dialed in yet).
But it would still be a good idea to stay away from one of those “You’re cute/hot/beautiful” lines that a hot girl has heard millions of times.
3. Do not get mad at her if she rejects you.
This is also a no brainer but you should never get mad at the girl who rejects you.
You have the right to approach her and she has her right to reject you.
If you are constantly getting a bad reaction from girls, then take that as a learning lesson to go over what you can improve.
But do not ever get mad at the girl for not giving the reaction you were hoping to get.
I said this a few times in the past but you should also make this one simple decision depending on your goal.
I don’t know what your goal is in dating.
I don’t know if you want to find that one special girl and live happily ever after with her…
Or have a lot of different experiences with different girls.
Whatever your goal is, I’m not here to judge.
I do want to note, however, emphasize this one point as someone who has more experience than most average guys.
If your goal is to have a lot of experiences with different girls, then you will have to decide to do things most average guys won’t.
Because what do most guys average dating life look like?
They are always at the mercy of chance.
They are waiting for that one girl from their social circle to show interest.
Or waiting for that crush with a boyfriend to break up so they can shoot their shot.
Their options are mostly limited to work, school, and friend of friend… always being at the mercy of their environment.
You may think good looking guys are killing it with women but that is not so true either.
I know a lot of tall and good looking dudes from the gym who are very social as well.
When I talk about their dating lives with them, they don’t really have it as good as what you would think either.
This whole dating market is completely skewed in favor of women in this day and age thanks to the rise of social media and millions of desperate men who are showering women with validation.
If you are an average or ugly looking dude… if you are a racial minority… or basically anyone who does not fit the ideal standard… you are pretty much eff’ed.
Unless you are willing to put yourself out there and go after what you want.
If you would rather get with girls that do not even fit your type from tinder and bumble and brainwash yourself into believing they are somehow your type… then please kindly disregard this entire article and go do your thing.
But if you want to maximize your chance of meeting the type of girls you are actually attracted to, you have to be willing to get off your ass and physically go out.
Not only should you be willing to take actions that most guys aren’t willing to take but you should also be willing to adopt a completely different view compared to most average guys.
Let me list some of the more prevalent views among average guys.
1. It is creepy to talk to a random girl.
2. It is creepy to ask a girl to come back home on a first date.
3. You should only meet girls from school, work, online or through friends.
4. You can’t have sex with a girl you met on the same day.
Let me just say there is no right or wrong answer about these beliefs.
But a good first step to living a different life is to go against the common beliefs that are held by the average population.
If you act the same way and think the same way as most people do, you will most likely live the type of life most people live.
I want to end this article with some practical suggestion.
Observe “yourself” next time you see a beautiful girl you want to talk to… whether it be a girl from school, bar, or a club.
Do you tense up?
Do you start walking at a slower pace because of anxiety?
Do your eyes start darting around because you are conflicted on whether you should talk to her or not?
If you said yes to most of those questions, let me ask you this.
If you knew there is a very good chance you would make her day by you going up to her with a smile and sharing your positive energy, would you feel the way I described above?
Would you really feel like you are being a creep by initiating a conversation with that girl if you knew for sure you are going to be the highlight of her day?
And guess what…?
You WILL almost most certainly be the highlight of her day if you take some advice from my previous articles and talk to her the right way.
So why don’t you be a decent human being and brighten up her day with your charm rather than letting her continue to suffer from incessant boredom?
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