“Hey, you should just stick to your own race. Why are you obsessed with White girls? Do you hate your own race?”
This is usually the type of response I get whenever I express my preference toward White women (or any non-Asian women for that matter).
So, do I really prefer a White woman because I hate being Asian, or is there a good reason for my preference?
This article is dedicated to you if you are a fellow Asian brother who grew up in the Western World, and you absolutely hate being told who you are supposed to date.
In this article, I want to talk about a few good reasons why you do not want to exclude White girls from your dating demographic if you are an Asian man (or any other racial minorities for that matter).
Let me first briefly talk about how I developed my preference for Non-Asian girls, and I’m sure you will be able to relate to some of the things I say if you are still reading this article.
I was 28 years old when I broke up with my first girlfriend.
I luckily stumbled upon her at the age of 26 (I was a kissless virgin until then), and I was certain I would spend the rest of my life with her.
My neediness and lack of boundaries eventually drove her away, and I felt clueless about how I can attract another woman into my life.
I knew I was destined to be alone and miserable if I did not learn how to talk to girls.
The clock was ticking, and I wasn’t getting any younger.
I desperately felt the urgency to improve my social skills and learn how to connect with women (and people in general).
Otherwise, I could see myself laying on my deathbed at an old age all by myself, and thinking to myself, “Where did everything go wrong?”
So, I made a commitment to tear my old self apart and become a completely new and better version of myself.
In order to improve my social skills, I did not, however, take a typical route of “Join different clubs and meet people through hobbies”.
Instead, I decided to take a little more hardcore route by forcing myself to talk to random strangers because I knew that was going to build my courage better.
I still remember the first time I ever approached a stranger.
It was a very average Asian girl, and I didn’t feel any desire to talk to her.
But, my friend pretty much forced me to go talk to her.
When I went up to her and tried to initiate a conversation, she basically told me to get lost as soon as I said a few words.
Was it because she hated an Asian man, or was it simply because I was weird and awkward?
If I had to guess, it was probably closer to the latter.
But, that incident aside, I’ve come to realize that there are a lot of Asian girls who blatantly mock Asian men, and they take some weird pride in their preference against Asian men.
And that pretty much made me turn my back against Asian women (along with their lack of curves…)
And here is another possible reason for my preference for AMWF relationship.
I did not have a very healthy relationship with my mother growing up.
My mom was physically present but she wasn’t quite emotionally present.
If I had to guess, my ‘mommy issue’ most likely played a role in me not wanting to date an Asian woman (This is probably the same reason why many Asian girls don’t want to date an Asian man).
But, I believe this is the core reason why I prefer White girls over Asian girls.
Growing up, I was constantly told by the media and the people around me that White girls don’t find Asian men attractive (I grew up in Canada).
Let me ask you this…
How do you feel when you are constantly told by others that you are not cut out for a certain thing?
If your brain is not operating in an apathetic state, you would probably give them a big middle finger and take the needed actions to prove them wrong.
And that’s exactly what I did.
I forced myself to become more social and outgoing.
I went out and made love to more White girls than I’m proud to admit.
At the end of the day, I didn’t get the fulfillment I was looking for.
But, I did learn a lot about myself during this journey.
I’ll be the first person to admit that it was an incredibly petty motivation that pushed me to transform myself.
But, however petty it may have been, it did serve as a catalyst for me to change my personality for the better.
All I can say is I just absolutely hated being told what I am or am not capable of doing.
With that being said, let’s now talk about some of the challenges Asian men face in the dating market.
In this section, I want to talk about some of the struggles Asian men face in the dating market.
Asian men are still widely considered to be the least desirable men of all races.
It is incredibly common to see WMAF (White male, Asian female) couples, but AMWF (Asian Male, White female) couples are still rarer in comparison.
Not only do Asian men struggle with White women, but they are often openly ridiculed by Asian women.
There is a study that shows Asian men have to make $247,000 more than White men of equal attractiveness, in order to attract the same quality of women in the online dating world.
While the study has too many flaws for it to be taken at face value, it does address the challenges that Asian men (living in the West) face in attracting the opposite sex.
It is not a secret that Asian men are often portrayed as weak, nerdy, anti-social, and physically unattractive in the Western media.
And to be very blunt, there is some truth to those stereotypes.
Generally speaking, it is true that Asian men tend to be more reserved than men of other races.
Asian men also tend not to speak up for themselves.
And these are all qualities that are not so highly desirable in men that live in the Western World.
To make matters worse (for Asian men), Asian women are dating (and getting married) outside of their race at an increasing rate while Asian men are still facing a lot of challenges in the dating market.
Even worse, many Asian women take the joy out of blatantly putting Asian men down.
“I don’t date Asian men because I don’t want people to think he’s my brother.”
“Sorry, I don’t date Asian men (with a proud tone). They are short and ugly”
How many times have you heard Asian girls say something similar to that?
On the other hand, how many times have you heard Asian men talk about Asian women in a derogatory way? Not many.
The truth is, a lot of Asian men are treated like absolute crap, and they still fail to stand up themselves.
So you may be asking, what is the reason Asian men struggle to stand up for themselves?
There can be a lot of different reasons (i.e. the way we were brought up in our culture) for this, but I believe it mostly comes down to this.
Asian men don’t (or so they think) have a lot of options in the dating market.
People who do not have options can’t complain.
Let’s say you are working at a job.
If you are not capable of finding another job, you will have no choice but to endure all the BS you face at work.
But, when you do have other options and you are being treated poorly, you would leave your job in a heartbeat.
The same exact principle applies when it comes to dating.
A man without many options can’t speak up because if he does, he might even lose whatever he already has.
This is why I want Asian men to cultivate that ability to date whatever race (or whoever) they want.
Once you have an abundance of options, you can choose to be with someone because you genuinely want to be with her instead of being with her out of desperation.
So, let’s talk about why you (an Asian man) may want to choose an AMWF route over dating an Asian girl.
1. You are most likely living in the Western World if you are reading this article.
White girls make up the majority of the population in the Western World.
So, you are greatly limiting your options if you only choose to go for Asian girls.
If you are an Asian man reading this, I want you to realize there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a preference for White girls.
But, I do believe it is incredibly stupid to have a racial restriction (as in you don’t date a certain race under any circumstance).
2. Many Asian girls are very vocal about their preferences toward non-Asian men.
I do realize a lot of Asian girls still prefer Asian men. But, it is undeniable there is an increasingly large portion of Asian females who have “No Asian dating policy”.
And the question is, why would you throw away your pride and dignity as a man to cling onto someone who does not want you?
I don’t know about you but I want to date a woman who is passionate about me.
3. Lastly, you may consider dating White women because you just vibe with them better.
Maybe, you grew up in a predominantly White neighborhood, so you are used to being around more White people than Asians.
Maybe, you just find their face or body more attractive.
There is nothing wrong with having a preference.
Do not listen to anyone who tries to shame you for having a preference.
You can skip this section if you are one of the rare Asian men who break the stereotypes.
This section is more for you if you are one of the stereotypical Asian dudes (as I once was).
Contrary to popular belief, it is not physical shortcomings that are holding Asian men back the most in the dating market.
In the past few years of going out and meeting a lot of different people, I’ve met plenty of short Asian men who are absolute womanizers.
So, what was different about them compared to other Asian men who struggle in the dating market?
They were unapologetic about what they wanted.
They did not complain about their physical shortcomings.
They did not blame the media for making it more difficult for Asian men.
They made a commitment to themselves that they are going to have an awesome dating life, and they did whatever they needed to do in order to accomplish that.
It did not emotionally affect them if they got rejected by ten girls in a row.
They understood there is a girl out there who will accept them for who they are (and there is… trust me), so they did not let rejections slow them down.
And I’m not going to sugarcoat anything, you really do need that tenacity as an Asian man (if you live in the Western World) to have an abundance in your dating life.
But, you will eventually find the girl of your dreams if you keep moving forward.
Anyway, I hope I offered some interesting perspectives on AMWF.
And I wish all my Asian brothers out there the best of luck.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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