“Hey, you should just stick to your own race. Why are you obsessed with White girls? Do you hate yourself?”
This was usually the type of response I would get whenever I would express my preference toward White women.
So, I want to talk about a few good reasons why you probably do not want to exclude White girls from your dating demographic if you are an Asian man (or any other racial minorities for that matter).
But, I first want to talk about how I developed my preference for Non-Asian girls (Because you may be able to relate)
It was around the age of 28 after I broke up with my first and only girlfriend,
I knew I was destined to be alone and miserable if I did not do something to change my personality.
I realized I absolutely had to improve my social skills and learn how to connect with people, before I got any older.
But, I did not take a typical route of “Join different clubs and meet people through hobbies” as many would recommend.
I decided to take a little more hardcore route by forcing myself to talk to random strangers.
I still remember the first time I ever approached a stranger.
It was an Asian girl and my friend encouraged me to go talk to her.
So, I went up to her and initiated a conversation and she basically told me to “Eff off” within the first 30 seconds of conversation.
If I had to guess, that incident probably played some part in making me decide I’m not going to bother talking to Asian girls (Since I wasn’t really physically attracted to most of them, to begin with… I’m a booty guy).
And here is another possible reason for my preference for AMWF relationship.
I did not have a very healthy relationship with my mother when I was growing up.
My mom was physically present but she wasn’t really emotionally there for me.
And, I would guess my “mommy issue” may have also played a factor in making turn my back against Asian women (which is one of the reasons why, whenever I hear an Asian girl say they don’t date Asian men, I assume they probably have daddy issue… just kidding… sort of).
But, I’ll be honest with you.
I think the core reason why I mainly went for White girls is this…
Growing up, I was constantly told by the media and the people around me that White girls don’t find Asian men attractive (I grew up in Canada).
Let me ask you this. How do you feel when someone tells you, you are not cut out to do something?
If your brain is not operating in that apathetic state, you would probably give them a big middle finger and feel that burning desire to prove them wrong.
And that’s exactly what I did.
I became more social and outgoing. I went out and made love with more White girls than I probably should have.
At the end of the day, I didn’t get the fulfillment I was looking for. But, I learned a lot about myself during this journey.
I’ll be the first one to admit it was all from a petty motivation.
But, this petty motivation still served as fuel for me to change my personality for the better, because I absolutely hated being told what I can or can’t do.
Anyway, I hope that helped you to really think about your own preferences and biases that may exist in your own brain.
Let’s now talk about some of the challenges Asian men face in the dating market.
In this section, I want to talk about some of the struggles Asian men face in the dating market.
Asian men are still widely considered as the least desirable men of all races.
It is incredibly common to see WMAF (White male, Asian female) couples, but AMWF (Asian male, White female) couples are still rarer in comparison.
Not only do Asian men struggle with just White girls, but they are often openly ridiculed by Asian women (which we will discuss in the next section).
A recent study showed that Asian men have to make $247,000 more than White men of equal attractiveness, in order to attract the same quality of women in the online dating world.
While the study has too many flaws for it to be taken at face value, it does address the challenges in dating for Asian men living in the West.
It is no secret that Asian men are often portrayed as weak, nerdy, anti-social, and physically unattractive by the Western media.
And to be very blunt, there is some truth to those stereotypes.
Generally speaking, it is true that Asian men tend to more reserved than men of other races.
It is true that Asian men tend not to speak up for themselves.
And some of these attributes make Asian men appear as rather unattractive to the opposite sex, especially in the Western World.
To make matters worse (for Asian men), Asian women are dating (and getting married) outside of their race at an increasing rate while Asian men are still facing a lot of challenges in the dating market.
And even worse, many Asian women take the joy out of blatantly putting Asian men down.
“I don’t date Asian men because I don’t want people to think he’s my brother.”
“Sorry, I don’t date Asian men (with a proud tone). They are short and ugly”
How many times have you heard Asian girls say something similar to that?
On the other hand, how many times have you heard Asian men say they don’t date Asian girls because Asian girls have no tits and no ass?
The truth is, a lot of Asian men are treated like a dog crap and they still fail to stand up themselves
And you may be asking, why do Asian men struggle to stand up for themselves?
There can be a lot of different reasons for this but I believe it mostly comes down to this.
It’s because Asian men don’t (or so they think) have a lot of options in the dating market.
People who do not have options can’t complain.
Let’s say you are working at a job.
If you are not capable of finding another job, you will have no choice but to endure all the BS you face at work.
But, when you do have other options and you are being treated poorly, you would leave your job in a heartbeat.
So, let’s talk about why you (an Asian man) may want to choose AMWF route over dating an Asian girl.
1. You are most likely living in Western countries if you are reading this article.
White girls make the majority of the population in Western countries. And, you are greatly limiting your option if you only choose to go for Asian girls.
So, I want you to realize there is absolutely nothing wrong for having a preference for White girls as an Asian man (If you do).
But, I do believe it is incredibly stupid to have a racial restriction (as in you don’t date a certain race under any circumstance).
2. Many Asian girls are very vocal about their preference toward non-Asian man.
I do realize a lot of Asian girls still prefer Asian men. But, it is undeniable there is an increasingly large portion of Asian females who have “No Asian dating policy”.
And the question is, why would you throw away your pride and dignity as a man to cling onto someone who does not want you?
I don’t know about you but I would rather date a woman who is just as passionate about me as I am about her.
3. Finally, you may just prefer White girls. Maybe, you grew up in a predominantly White neighborhood so you are used to being around them. Maybe, you just find them more attractive. There is nothing wrong with having a preference. Do not listen to anyone who tries to shame you for having a preference.
You can skip this section if you are one of the “alpha” Asian men who break the stereotypes.
But, this is for you if you are one of the stereotypical Asian dudes (as I once was).
Contrary to popular belief, it is not so much, physical attributes that are holding Asian men back.
Throughout my years of going out, I’ve met plenty of short Asian men who absolutely kill it with girls.
So, what was different about them compared to other Asian men who struggle in the dating market?
They went for what they wanted unapologetically.
They did not complain about their physical shortcomings.
They did not blame the media for making it more difficult for Asian men.
They made a conscious decision for themselves that they are going to have a fantastic dating life, and they did what was needed to accomplish that.
It did not faze them to get rejected by girls ten times in a row. They understood there is a girl out there who will love them for who they are (and there is… trust me), so no amount of rejections fazed them.
And you really do need that tenacity as an Asian man to truly reach abundance in dating.
Anyway, I hope I offered you some interesting perspective about AMWF.
And I wish the best of luck for all my Asian brothers out there.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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