I debated whether I should post this or not..
You may be asking why…
The truth is more than half of my close friends consist of dating (or PUA) coaches… who make living off of coaching other guys to pick up girls or improve their dating lives.
And what I’m about to reveal in this article may very well rub them the wrong way… especially the ones who center their training on the wrong things.
But you know what?
It’s better to reveal the truth and stand up for what I believe in… than to be a bystander knowing you are throwing away money and time.
So, let’s dive right in with the first cold hard truth about pick-up artists and PUA techniques.
The truth is…
Yep… I said it.
It almost seems counter-intuitive to think that pick up artists are bad with girls.
I mean… they spend hours and hours approaching women and trying to pick up girls. So you’d think that must have surely turned them into a pussy magnet.
Here’s the truth, however.
Most PUA community is made up of guys who can barely hold a proper conversation with another human being… despite spending a copious amount of time “socializing” with girls.
What happens as a result is that… these guys learn to become alright at picking up drunken girls from the club.
But they still remain as an awkward, weird dude in any other situations where they are expected to behave like a normal human being.
Thus, they just end up turning into a very one-dimensional person. Just a “one-trick pony” that is…
So why is that?
Well… let me ask you this.
Have you ever played any sports in your life or hit the gym before?
If you have… you can probably think of at least a few people who’s been training consistently for a few years but with absolutely nothing to show.
They still make the same basic mistakes they made the first time they started out. They still look (or perform) like someone who’s only been training for a few weeks.
They get destroyed by a newcomer who has a one-fifth of the experience that they have (but with higher quality and focused training time…).
Only going out to the bars and a club to get better with girls often have much of the same effect.
You start developing a “situational confidence” only in that specific environment.
You, all of a sudden, revert back to acting like a little bitch when you are taken out of that environment you feel comfortable in.
It’s like the guy who’s been lifting with a horrendous form for years.
Sure, he may reach an ok level of strength with his shitty form… but he’ll hit that roadblock very soon.
And someone who actually developed “social muscle” with the right approach will wipe the floor with the said PUA any time of the day.
So, what’s else do I notice from PUA community?
The unfocused mind can’t get anything done.
This is essentially what every dating coaches and pick-up artists are reinforcing, however, for your brain to remain in that dark abyss.
They verbally vomit any and every information they can think of – in a very abstract way that is hard for anyone to refute – and they expect you to figure out where you should put your focus.
If you blabber your mouth thousands of times, then you are bound to say some correct things.
But, what then is the difference between seeking knowledge from them and just searching google to gather information?
Theoretically, you can even learn all the information you need to become a doctor from searching on google.
But that would most likely take you at least twenty to thirty years to acquire all the knowledge you need to become a proficient doctor… as opposed to spending a few years in medical school.
In fact, you would be spending more time sorting out the right information, organizing them into a logical sequence… than the time you would spend actually learning the information.
And that is exactly what most dating or pick up coaches have been doing.
They’ve been spewing out so much random and incoherent information. It has reached a point that their follows now have no frigging clue what or what not to focus on.
So, It’s important for you to realize just how much…
This tactic is great for having their mindless followers advocate for them anytime someone refutes their idea.
“Oh but he ALSO said this in his other video/article..!”
“Oh he actually mentioned about that too in this other video..!”
Like I said earlier, if you blabber your mouth enough times… you’ll reach a point where you talked about pretty much any and every topic there is.
You ever hear some dating coach talk about how looks don’t matter?
And in his next video, he blames his followers for failing to understand the nuances in what he says… and that looks do indeed matter.
This approach is great (for the pick-up coach) for three purposes:
1. Much more content he can talk about. One video on looks don’t matter. Another video on developing enough awareness for his followers so they can understand the “nuances” better. Yet another video on why looks do indeed matter. How much more content is that than just sticking to one content?
2. By following the previous approach, you now have an argument for any and every side for every topic you talk about. So, you can always say, “Oh… I talked about why that does/doesn’t matter in this and that video as well..!”.
3. This is a great way to appear as the “authority” in their follower’s mind. Because it makes them look as if they’ve figured everything out.
It does have one main drawback, however…
It only benefits the pick-up coach and his pocket… but not his followers (aka you).
A person with no clarity is not going to take decisive action.
Your confused brain – after being exposed hundreds of contradicting advice – will fail to process and identify what matters… and you will waste years dabbling from one idea to another.
Which is also one of the main reasons why guys never get good at this shit despite spending years going out.
My advice is simple.
And stick to his advice.
I guaran-fucking-tee you will see much faster progress that way.
Anyway, that’s enough talking for today..
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