She looks into your eyes… she smiles… and she even touches your arms every now and then when you talk to her.
But does that mean she is into you?
Well… not necessarily.
It completely sucks thinking the girl is totally into you only to find out it was all in your imagination.
While there is definitely time and place for taking that bold action without over-thinking everything, it’s also good to be able to read signs to have an idea of where you stand with the girl you are interested in.
And that is exactly what you are going to learn in this article – to become the master at reading signs that a girl sends your way.
But before we get into the specifics, I do want to point out there is no “one” sign that will tell you with complete certainty that the girl is into you.
It is a combination of several of these signs that will give you confidence in knowing that the girl finds you attractive as well.
As a general rule of thumb, if you see two or more signs we will be discussing in this article, you should swing the bat instead of wasting any more time over-thinking.
With that being said, the first sign I want you to be aware of is…
Ask yourself this. Do you ever ask questions to someone you do not want to continue talking?
If you do not like the person, the last thing you want to do is to prolong the interaction by asking them questions.
When she reciprocates in the interaction by taking interest in getting to know you better, this is a good sign she at least does not find you repulsive (which still puts you miles ahead of most guys…).
The more personal the question, the more likely she is into you.
Here is my little tip.
If she asks what you do during your free time or where is your favorite place to eat, just assume she is into you (because she most likely is) and ask if she wants to join you the next time you plan to go there (whatever your answer was…).
You are going to have much more abundance in your dating life by using these opportunities in a conversation to naturally progress your interaction.
The tone of her voice changes if she likes you.
When you are talking to a girl, pay attention to the two types of voice changes.
The first change you should note is if she talks to you with a higher pitched voice (aka rapport building tone). But more specifically, if her tone goes up at the end.
Girls speak with this tone when they are interested in you and want you to essentially like them back.
If a girl speaks with a softer and quieter tone, there is also a very good chance she is attracted to you.
A lot of girls become softly spoken in front of guys they are attracted to.
The tone that you do NOT want to hear from a girl is what I call the “office tone”.
When she speaks to you as though she is in a business meeting, then it most likely means she is not yet interested in you romantically.
For whatever “random” reason, her eyes always seem to face toward your direction.
She may not necessarily maintain eye contact with you but her eyes constantly gaze toward where you are present.
This is especially true if she tends to be the shy type.
She is hoping you may “accidentally” notice her.
I want you to realize it is a lot harder to hide your true intentions with your body languages and eye contact.
We have been practicing lying with our words ever since we were a kid, but not so much with our body language and eye contact.
While too much comfort with minimal tension can take you straight to the friend-zone, the girl has to feel enough comfort around you for her to feel aroused.
The fact she is willing to stand a few inches away from you is a great sign she feels comfortable with you.
I mean… your lips have to touch to kiss her and your body has to touch her body to have sex, so you and the girl might as well get used to being close to each other’s body.
One thing you can try to test the water is to take one step forward (not in an abrupt way but in a smooth way that looks natural…) while you are talking to her.
If she looks uncomfortable and she backs off, it is a clear sign she does not feel comfortable with you yet.
If she is fine with you stepping closer, then it is a good sign she is one step closer to playing with your tootsie roll.
Do not confuse this with her just ignoring you when you try to banter and tease. That is most likely a sign she is just not interested.
But a lot of girls become shy and get in their head when a guy (who they are attracted to…) teases them.
This is not exactly hard to relate when you try to understand her experience through the lens of your own experience.
How much did you over-think, stutter, and stumble over words when you were talking to attractive girls from the past?
You may very well be able to maintain your Mr. Casanova character after you’ve accumulated enough experience with hot girls…
But I bet it wasn’t so easy maintaining your cool when you initially started interacting with attractive women.
The same exact principle applies to shy girls. She may just not have enough social skills to banter with you, in which case, it will manifest as her getting flustered and getting in her head in front of you.
This is also the reason why you need to be careful to not be “too much” when talking to shy girls who may be attracted to you.
When you bombard her with your teases (If she’s shy and is already attracted to you), you are essentially creating a further value gap between you and her.
She may start to believe you are out of her league and decide to move on from you.
It is as if a hot girl is acting completely stand-offish in front of you. She may like you and it may be just her way of playing hard to get. But you will probably feel like it is too much for you to handle and leave the interaction (especially if you are new to this).
Let me illustrate this point with a story.
I was talking to a girl at the gym one time and the topic of “smell” came up for whatever reason.
I told her that I cannot stand a girl with terrible breath and it’s the biggest turn off in a girl.
Half an hour later, we were talking again and she randomly talks about how she’s worried she smells bad because she’s sweating so much.
This was a sign what I said earlier had an emotional impact on her which means I was “emotionally relevant” in her mind.
If what you communicate to a girl leaves a lasting imprint on a girl’s mind, then you can bet there is a good chance she is intrigued by you.
This is one of those things you probably don’t pay attention frequently but is deeply embedded into your subconscious brain.
It truly is fascinating how we mimic the body language of a person who we like without even thinking about it.
Start noticing how your body language changes when you are talking to a girl you like.
You will often catch yourself mimicking her body language.
The same applies to girls if they like you.
When you have your arms crossed, she will often cross her arms as well if she is into you.
When you are leaning on one side with your left arm, she will often lean on her left arm as well if she likes you.
People are good at lying with words but are usually terrible at lying with their body.
So pay extra attention to her body language to see where she really stands.
This mostly applies to the club and a bar setting.
This sign really shows a high level of interest.
The chances are she’s known her friend for a much longer period than she’s known you.
And most girls usually care a LOT about what their friends think and how they are perceived by the people in their group.
So if she consciously decides to spend time with you over her friend, then that really is a big sign she is intrigued by you.
Despite searching for all these signs, the chances are you may still encounter a situation where you are not entirely sure if the girl is attracted to you or not.
In such a case, this is what I suggest you do.
Lead her and see if she follows your lead.
This is by far one of the best ways to gauge a girl’s interest.
In 99% of cases, the girl is not going to follow your lead unless she has some level of interest.
If she is willing to follow your lead and suggestion, that is often a tell-tale sign that she is into you.
And you don’t need to complicate this process. It can be as simple as you asking her to come to the bar area with you for a few seconds or asking if she wants to go out for a smoke.
So if you are not sure about her level of interest, simply lead her away!
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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